By Devin Miller
Hey single one, do you feel slighted by the mini #jayandbeys of the world?
Have your friends been punishing your pupils with their “couple goals” hashtags and matching outfits? Does it feel that everyone is boo’ed up but you?
Well lean in, my single friends: I have some vital information that I am certain will make you feel a lot better.
First and foremost, there are 33 million singles out there, so you are not alone.
Secondly, the Internet is not a real place.
You cannot request an Uber to drop you off there, and you will never receive a passport stamp for your online travels. It’s all fake, beloved.
Additionally, what goes on behind closed doors inside those perfect relationships isn’t always as polished as those beautifully IG-filtered photos.
Some of you have received tawdry DMs and inboxes from the same people who market their relationship as the perfect union online. Face it; sometimes it’s just for show, sometimes it’s not.
I’ve been victim to many “happily married” or “happily engaged” men who happened to wander into my DMs, with their unsolicited penis pics in tow. (And they always come with the same narrative, “You’re married too, so you know how it is.”) Bruh. You’re just trash. Beat it.
Anyway! To all my singles, I am coming to you to encourage, and help you understand that the natural order of your life has NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA TIMELINE. Those people who seem to have the perfect relationships, business models, or life in general, are not perfect. No one is.
Their ‘perfect’ social media lives should not be a direct reflection of your progress, your value, or potential to find your own bae.
So here are some tips on how not to get sucked into a vacuum of hater emotions when you see the 18th couple photo from homegirl/homeboy on your social media pages.
- If you see those sunny couple posts, like it or don’t– they won’t know.
- Know that if love found them, your time will also come.
- Work on what makes you happy outside of social media. Enjoy your real life.
- Love yourself.
- Always stay gracious, humble, and hopeful.
- Love yourself. (Intentional repeat)
While you are single, enjoy your freedom, your personal time, and your growth. You are exactly where you should be; knowing that is the greatest gift you can give yourself.
This I promise.
Chicago’s own Devin Miller is a Freelance Writer, Event Coordinator, and Project Manager who has always used creative expression to promote joy and laughter in a world bogged down with serious people, and serious situations. She is a “dreamer and a planner,” and truly believes that without both, you should stay asleep. Follow her on Twitter at : @80sbaby_83.