“Say one more word and I’m going to knock your teeth down your throat,” or, “Keep talking back and I’m going to knock your teeth out!”
Those statements are both threats from my mom and also ones I utter to my kids anytime they take a leave of their senses.
Recently, Grammy nominated singer Angie Stone was arrested for making good on those promises with her own grown daughter who resides with her. Angie alleges that after asking her daughter to clean her room and control her children (Angie’s grandchildren), her daughter attacked her. In retaliation, Angie allegedly hit her daughter with metal furniture, knocking out her front teeth.
Most wonder how a mother and daughter could actually get to that point. I’m embarrassed to admit that as a grown woman, I also hit my mother. That was more than 15 years ago, but it is still one of my biggest regrets.
Here’s what happened: After spanking my daughter, my mom—who never spanked me and doesn’t believe in spankings—asked if I would like to be hit and proceeded to hit me as well. I was 23-years-old and a complete hot head. My heart broke later that day when my mom’s eye began to reveal where I punched her and it still breaks today when I think about it.
Although I feel like my mom definitely overstepped her boundaries by interfering with my parenting, my actions were inappropriate as well.
It became apparent to me that it’s very difficult for two queens to live in one castle. That was my exact response when I heard about the allegations against Angie Stone.
I’m not sure why Angie Stone’s grown daughter and grandchildren were living with her; and I was further confused as to why Angie would have to ask a grown woman to clean her room and to MOTHER her own children.
If Angie’s account of the story is true and she was attacked after making her request, I feel like she had every right to defend herself and the repercussions will fall where they may.
Currently my mom lives with me and my children and there are times when the castle seems overcrowded.
For example, if I try to steal away with my boo for an intimate moment, she might loudly call my name and instantly jolt me right back childhood. However, for the most part, there isn’t a power struggle. She respects the fact that although she’s my mom, she lives with me and not the other way around. I also acknowledge that she’s my mom and deserves respect and we love having her around!
Hopefully Angie and her daughter can eventually reconcile and move forward. In the meantime, her daughter definitely needs to move to her own place.
Follow Shemeka Michelle on twitter @thenakedgirlz
About Shemeka Michelle: “I was that chick. Gave it all up, all of it. I put all my eggs in one basket. Didn’t have a plan B ‘cause I believed in plan A. Then one day, all of it came to an end. All I could do was take it. I’m a survivor with 3 kids I HAD to make it! So instead of dying from pain and hiding in shame, I’ve decided to get NAKED.” www.nakedgirlzblog.com
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