Hey Black Men: Black Women Have Options, Too

Hey Black Men: Black Women Have Options, Too
Photo: Paolo Neoz via PhotoPin/Creative Commons.

Editor’s note: A Comeaux penned this blog in response to Shemeka Michelle’s blog, Why Black Men Won’t Marry Black Women

By A Comeaux

In Minnesota, black men of all socio-economic classes vie for the affections of non-black women here. I used to think only rich, successful black men ran off with their dream Barbie… But that’s not the case.

Somewhere it was established that a non-black woman on the arm of a black man was a trophy. This was an ode to him ‘making it’ when he walked in the room with his ivory doll…

Welp, my beautiful black men, this weave-wearing when I feel like it-single mom who sometimes serial dates the rainbow and unapologetically speaks my heart with the grace of Mrs. Huxtable and the veracity of a toddler, am not sold on marrying you either!

This isn’t a black man bash blog. Nor will I defend my sisters obvious worth too oftentimes overlooked. I don’t find this to be solely about preference.

I’ve met some amazing men of exotic races and even fell for a ‘white boo’ this summer and felt not a feather fall from my wings while doing it!

Just like you, my beautiful black men, we also have options!

The breed of black men I was taught to love and submit to are so few that I fear their extinction.

The protector, the provider, the family man who’s about his business and creating legacy… Where are THEY? Those are the trophies. Those are the gems cut from the rough that don’t get the shine they deserve.

You half-handsome ‘new money’ types who share your lavish lives with everyone but your first wife, everyone but your first set of kids, and everyone but your original support team, can have ALL the seats and sit down!

Stop it.

What peeves me is not the skin color, please know this. I’m bothered that for you to be validated, you have to bash us.

Why? The women you flock to wouldn’t look your way had you nothing to offer.

But when we say we want an accomplished man, we’re gold-diggers.

Nice. *side eye

I’m A Comeaux and I’ll live a life of opulence. I’m just fine if that’s not with a black man. They didn’t stop making trophies when you bought yours.

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A Comeaux is the writer, speaker and actor who poetically paints pictures of life and love with a paradoxical perspective. Follow her on Twitter @KCOSpoke.

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