In the midst of the whirlwind I’ve found my life in over these dreaded holidays, it’s the refreshing breath of hot air that is reality-turned-scripted TV that’s proved to be my silver lining.
Now if you’ve read any of my blogs you’ll know I’m no fan of reality TV due to the negative, though well dressed, depiction of my fellow brown beauties. Welp.
Here we have a scripted show on BET Being Mary Jane with a few of our favs leading the way and written by the powerhouse that brought us the ever-missed Girlfriends. We went from Girlfriends to THIS…?
No bashing and no disrespect. I’m simply curious is this the only way we can lead, as if we’re still written subserviently?
Are we only allowed to dress and speak well but be a complete mess in love and relationships?
Can we not have it, or attempt to have it all together?
There’s a market for this, I’m sure. The numbers certainly support it. Even women who don’t agree with the plots will tune in to these shows on the sheer notion of curiosity or to not be left out of the Twitter debates and office chats.
It’s juicy–and I get it I get it.
But where is the balance? Where is our modern-day Claire Huxtable?
Is class out of style? Have we become so shallow that a nice suit and a title is all we need for ‘respect’?
Where did we leave our morals? Who do we have to look up to?
I know it starts at home. I know television is for entertainment. I also know there is an epidemic of black women who aren’t getting (or being) married.
I know the images of us: we are either flaunting our enlarged asses, power suits and weak love lives or we are in complete ratchet dysfunction…with millions of views a week!
I’m not jumping on the bandwagon to support a movement I can’t grow in.
While I feel we should all be affronted by this stereotype, I understand the pressures to get work in this industry. As unfortunate as it may be, sorry it’s boiling down to a check for all those involved and not a legacy for those of us watching.
I’ll leave you with this: If you had the power to show the range of what a black woman in America truly embodies, what would you show the world?
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A Comeaux is the writer, speaker and actor who poetically paints pictures of life and love with a paradoxical perspective. Follow her on Twitter @KCOSpoke
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