Friendship: I Know You Are But What Am I?

By A Comeaux
Play me a song. I need a tune to help me write and it’s right at the tip of my pen but it’s not coming to me…
“Friends. How many of us have them…? Yes! Whodini!!
Alright! Had to go old school real quick but now that I have my song I can get into this thang! Some time ago I did an evaluation on my life and it’s prized processions; noticing ‘friends’ was too loose a term I’d labeled a few space holders. I’ll boast, I’m blessed with a couple of no less than amazing women who truly love and support me season in season out. I have people in my life who truly want to see me make it with no ill intention. I’m grateful for this!

“Friends we can depend on…”

I have been loved, so I know how to love. I have been taught, by beautiful friendship, how to BE a friend.


We don’t ‘make it’ alone. We don’t ‘pull it off’ alone and we don’t want to celebrate our special moments alone. We have people for the comfort, encouragement and support we need to fly. The wonderful part is knowing this, being able to give this back when our friends need us. Listen, we’re not the awkward dressed kid in a crowded lunch room trying to sit at the cool kids table anymore. (Sorry, flashback).
Today, we need shoulders to cry on when love turns cold. We need support when the kids are gone stir crazy and the job sends our blood pressure to the moon. #atthesamedamntime!
We need our girls today to remind us before our hair stayed whipped and nails stayed done we were beautiful and content in our own skin. Sister, I need you. You are the reflection of me. When you see a woman broken, that’s you! Think about it. What if you let your pain show, or if you removed the barrier that makes you (think you’re) better than me? What about if we focused more on our similarities rather than our differences… And we mimicked the friends that have proven friendly to us.
What if…
I’m a loyal friend because I’ve been friended well. When you think about a friend, ask yourself, ‘Am I one?’ Are you quick to ask someone to pick up the kids when you can’t leave your desk but turn around and say no to a neighbor who’s car broke down? Are you the friend you expect others to be…?
Take a moment.
My self-reflection isn’t yours, but I can’t imagine I’m the only one who’s experienced this.
I vow to be better. I vow to show up more. In all honestly, no one who’s befriended me has ever crossed me and doesn’t deserve my friendship anymore. I owe it to myself to be the friend I’ve been blessed with. So next time the question comes up about friends… Ask yourself, ‘I know you are, but what am I…’
You’re IT!!
Tweet me and let me know your thoughts!
A Comeaux
Chief Chick A Comeaux is the writer, speaker and actor who poetically paints pictures of life and love with a paradoxical perspective.

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