Tween Us is taking a bit of a spring break this week, but I’ve been reading some great pieces on parenting tweens and teens that I wanted to share.
In the past, many of us have commented on how there isn’t nearly as much good content on the web for parents of older kids as there is for parents of younger kids. Lately, though, I’ve been seeing more and more written about the challenges that come with raising adolescents.
Here are some of my favorite parenting posts that I’ve seen on the web this week, with a great quote from each. Enjoy!
“I realized that it’s not actually our job as parents to give our children every experience. It’s OK to leave some things up to them to accomplish. It might even be better to let them do some things on their own someday.”
This very best part of this fantastic post is visual, so please take a look, but let’s just say that I love the idea of writing on the washing machine with a dry erase marker. “Because, of course, he has pants. More than one pair, even, and this lovely March morning, I knew precisely where they all were: dirty, inside-out, and strewn across his bedroom floor. Most of them, anyway; one pair was in the middle of the living room floor, where he’d stepped out of them the night before.”
“How young is too young to talk about underage drinking?“ by Amy Joyce from On Parenting from the Washington Post
“If you think that what you say is falling on deaf ears, it’s not. “For whatever reason, parents think they lose influence over kids by age 16, but research is pretty clear… that kids are still most influenced by parents through age 21 about things like alcohol and texting,” said Bill Windsor, MADD Board Chair and Nationwide associate vice president of consumer safety.”
“The Case for Taking Parental Leave When Your Kids Are Teenagers“ by Jennifer Senior from New York Magazine
“Most adolescents, [Laurence] Steinberg says, don’t misbehave in the backseats of cars on weekend evenings. They break the rules between 3 and 6 p.m. on school days, usually in their own homes or a friend’s, when no one else is around. Those are the peak hours for drug experimentation, smoking, sex.”
“And when things are bad, and you both are hurting, assume that he is doing the best he can. When it feels like your 12-year-old is unlovable, try statements like, “I know you, and I know you care about your homework.” Or, “I know your heart. I know you love your sister.” . . . [A]s parents, we are obligated to assume the best about our children, and in doing so, that gives them hope. After all, who else will assume the best about our children if we don’t?”
I have also been amazed this week by the amount of traffic the Easter posts are getting. It seems a lot of people are searching for cheap and fun items to put in Easter baskets for their tweens and teens. If you’re in the same boat, I’ve got help for you here and here.
Should you want to send the kiddos on a holiday scavenger hunt, use the printable clues here.
You May Also Like: The Easter cake above was done mostly by my then 10 year-old and it’s both festive and very simple. Get the tutorial here.
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