After seeing video of Kelly Ripa’s appearance on The Wendy Williams Show, I’m starting to think that maybe she’s a Tween Us reader.
I realize she’s probably not, but I loved what she said about checking her 13 year-old daughter’s phone when the teen was supposed to be doing her homework. Here are some of my favorite quotes from her appearance that show that she and I are on the same page regarding parenting in the digital age.
* “You can’t have privacy and be on Instagram.”
So very true. I’ve been beating the “nothing online is private” drum for years now. Here’s what parents need to know about Instagram.
* “If you want to write in your journal, I’m not going to read that. But if you want to Tweet about what a pain in the butt your mom is, I’m going to see that.”
I suggested getting kids a journal or diary as a safe place for kids to express their feelings and to encourage it and not the internet to be their emotional dumping ground in a post in February entitled “Try this low-tech tool to help keep your kids safe online.” Like Ripa, I also suggested that parents respect the privacy of a diary.
* “Her phone isn’t supposed to be in her room during study hours.”
I love the idea of limiting where a phone can be when, and making it clear that phones and homework don’t mix. I’m also a fan of parents keeping phones at night and keeping them in their bedroom, not the kitchen where kids can sneak down and get them.
* “She knows I know her code” for her phone.
I’ve long maintained that parents should have all codes and passwords for kids’ phones and they should check them. Again, a diary is not public and therefore not something a parent should monitor. Online, however, is public and merits monitoring by parents, especially for tweens and younger teens.
* “I’m not your friend, I’m your mom.”
I don’t get why this is making headlines because parents have been saying it for years. Admittedly, it seems that fewer and fewer are saying it these days, but I do think there is a decent contingent of us who believe that our kids disliking us is not the end of the world, and perhaps even an indicator that we are doing something right.
You can see Ripa’s appearance on The Wendy Williams Show here:
I love this responsible parenting. I’m a bit baffled that it’s getting all kinds of attention, but if the publicity motivates parents to monitor their kids’ online behavior, discuss privacy with their kids and be okay with kids having friends their own age, then I am all for it.
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