My therapist friend suggested I read Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay. Not a huge fan of parenting books, I took this recommendation openly as my smart and stubborn daughter has been giving me a hard time lately.
I am very interested in the concept that teaches children responsibility instead of constantly “saving” them from each problem that they encounter (for example bring their lunch to school when they forget it etc.)
From the book;
“If you want to raise kids who are self-confident, motivated, and ready for the real world, take advantage of the win-win approach to parenting. Your kids will win because they’ll learn responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems. And you’ll win because you’ll establish healthy control – without resorting to anger, threats, nagging or exhausting power struggles.”
I’ve already learned a lot from this approach to parenting even in how I use words. I am trying to turn my words positive instead of negative. For example I could say:
“No, you can’t watch television until your homework is done.”
“Yes, you may watch television as soon as your homework is done.”
Doesn’t the second seem so much nicer and how you would want to be talked to?
Have you read any parenting books that have really worked for you? I would love any suggestions as I’m constantly learning about this parenting thing.
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