To Celebrate or Not to Celebrate Valentine's Day

My stance on Valentine’s Day is mixed.  I adore the idea of saying, “I love you” because frankly when is it not a good time to say those three words?  Yet, as an old roommate of mine would remind me yearly, “Everyday should be Valentine’s Day.”  That would be beautiful, but it isn’t our reality.


My parents would surprise my sister and I with red and pink gifts on the table when we were younger.  I try to replicate this joyful morning for my family.  My kids excite in the gifts and candy, because obviously stuffed animals and chocolate are a treat any day of the year.  I wonder if they really understand what Valentine’s Day means, or maybe the fact that they feel loved is enough.

My son is carefully writing his name on each Valentine for his class mates at school.  We discuss how the cards are a token of appreciation for his friends.  He looks at me as if he is contemplating this and then tells me he wonders who will have Batman and Spiderman valentines and he is sure the girls will all have princess and Strawberry Shortcake, because that is what girls like. 


My husband and I always celebrated the holiday giving each other gifts, flowers and chocolate and going out for an expensive meal.  The past few years we have stayed home, probably due to the lack of a babysitter or the fact that the meal is always overcrowded and overpriced on the 14th of February.  Does that mean we are less in love or we are less obsessed with a silly holiday?

My thoughts are mixed.  Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?  How do you make it special? 



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  • valentine's day has become out of control and it now does more ill than good. and lest you think this is coming from a bitter single person, think again...i have only been single for 2 out of the last 16 valentine's day.

    restaurants are crowded, the two tops are even worse than they usually are, flowers are 4 times the amount they are on the 15th of february, chocolates get eaten, etc...

    that said, it's almost impossible not to get involved in it. it is a social phenomenon and not everyone i have dated has been so anti-V-Day, so I had to indulge them. Now, I am with a great man and we have the best tradition...we go to taco bell, a guilty pleasure of both of us. we won't eat it for at least 2-3 months to make it more special.

    so, i guess, to sum it up, instead of making sure you fit into the nicely compartmentalization of hallmark love, try to find fun stuff for you to do as a couple. or just screw like bunny rabbits.

  • More in love because you are secure enough to remember each other but not bend to the pressure to HAVE to do something you don't necessarily want to do!

  • I said last night I think I was more concerned about valentines day when I was single. When you are with someone you love that night isn't much different except you might eat a little more chocolate.

  • The problem with V-day is the build-up. You spend all year doing random love inspired things for each other, then, one day a year, you have to top all the truly good-hearted impulsiveness with an act to "show how much you care". Seems like love and relationships should be judged by everything you do around Valentine's Day, not the day itself.

  • In reply to bethprystowsky:

    The comment above is not from me, it is from my husband. He thoughtfully commented although from my computer under my name.

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