How would you feel if you lost your independence?

I lost mine on February 10th when I found out, after I caused a car accident, that swelling in my brain from my stupid cancer had wiped out big chunks of my peripheral vision. No driving the doctors (and the law) said. I don’t think I ever thought about my peripheral vision until it was gone. Damn you melanoma. I hate you.

It’s been 5 long months since I’ve driven my car (which I love to drive, BTW). It’s fast and fun, and I miss it like crazy.

If you know me, you know that i HATE being dependent on others for ANYTHING. It pisses me off when I can’t “do for myself.” And at this point, I can’t even get a gallon of milk on my own. F*CK! I want my damn independence back!

But in spite of my icky attitude right now, I’m most appreciative of everyone who has helped me get when I need to be…or where I want to be. Maybe a salon for a much needed pedicure. Thanks to my girls for that one…twice! I didn’t want to break the Summer Shoe Pledge, ya know!

So, a big shout out goes to Jimmy, my rockstar husband of almost 30 years; my sisters, Claudia and Beth; my daughters, Morgan and Mallory, who I affectionately refer to as the M&M girls; my sisters-in-law (but they’re really sisters) Carmen and Gloria; and last, but definitely not least, my Dad, who stepped way out of his comfort zone to get me to a pre-op appointment before my last surgery.

Okay…pity party over. Deep breath.

I’ll use this opportunity to remind you all that you can avoid melanoma (and all the garbage my melahomies and I go through) by doing a few simple things. Wear SUNSCREEN AND SUNGLASSES, HATS AND PROTECTIVE CLOTHING every single day. And avoid being in the sun as much as possible between 10am and 2pm.

Among the “joys” (not) that melanoma brings is scan day. Today is scan day for me, and Jimmy will attest that I’ve been a bit difficult to deal with the last couple of days. The stress of waiting to find out whether or not there’s another brain tumor growing up there is hell, and I don’t want any of you to have to go through it. So PLEASE, protect yourselves. Of course, I’ll need a ride to the train and then to the hospital. Great.

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