Category: parenting

Hands-on Fathers

When one of my brothers did something caring for my late mother, she used to say he was like a daughter. In her worldview, men did not do much caregiving. Similarly, Robert Fulghum wrote this Mother’s Day tribute to his son: I called him a “Mother” in that he reflected the spirit of New Parenthood. ... Read more »

Father’s Day Tribute Over Three Generations

My father died two years ago. It still feels weird not searching for a book he would enjoy or the perfect card to send. Instead, I will dedicate this post to three generations of fathers – my dad, my husband, and my son and sons-in-law. Fathers like mine from the Greatest Generation were not expected... Read more »

Summer Vacation Ideas for Families: Traveling with Kids is a Just a Trip

Many months ago, I embarked on the seemingly endless project of transferring our old family slides and videos to DVD. As I worked on this, it occurred to me that 75% of the video footage of my children when they were young was shot in swimming pools, and it was hard to tell if we... Read more »

More Advice to New Graduates: Why “Trust Yourself and Follow Your Passion in Life” is not the Same as “Do What You Love”

There is a post from the New York Times circulating online, A Life Beyond ‘Do What You Love’  by Gordon Marino. A friend sent it to me after reading my advice to new graduates post entitled Trust Yourself and be Your Own Advisor. I think she was wondering if what I wrote might lead to narcissistic graduates pursuing personal... Read more »

Here Comes Summer: The Truth About June and Summer Vacation

Thinking back on it, I was always anxious about June. Even in years when I disliked the demands of the school-year schedule, all of the changes that summer represented were stressful. As a young child, I remember feeling at loose ends, and as a teen I worried about finding a decent summer job. With my... Read more »

Letter to a New Mom: One Mom's Mother's Day Message for her Daughters

Dear Daughters, I raised you to believe you had to do it all.  You were brought up with books like The Practical Princess in which the princess had to rescue the prince herself in order to live happily ever after.  You danced to the songs from Free to be You and Me and I encouraged... Read more »

Helicopter Parenting Times Three Generations

Is it possible to be a helicopter daughter, parent, and grandparent all at the same time?  That’s a lot of hovering.  It’s bound to lead to an occasional crash. My 90-year-old mother likes to tell me I’m her mother now. What I think she means is, since my father died, she relies on my brothers... Read more »

For Donna, Sammy, Kaelan, and Other Children Lost Too Soon to Childhood Cancer

I don’t know my fellow ChicagoNow blogger, Mary Tyler Mom, but I do know that childhood cancer takes the lives of too many beautiful children like her beloved Donna Day. Reading the 31 installments of Donna’s Cancer Story left me with an ache I can’t describe. Donna’s mom wrote, “It’s hard to grasp and capture... Read more »

Meltdown over Frozen Recess

My granddaughter, a second grader, was punished along with half of her classmates for playing on the ice during recess. I knew she would be among the violators brought in for breaking the rule and the ice. She loves to stomp on ice pretending to be Elsa from Frozen. Unfortunately, she lacks Elsa’s powers and... Read more »

Not Alinea But A 5 Star Experience for my Family

Recently, we went out to lunch with three of our grandchildren and their parents. Thank goodness we weren’t at Alinea! Sorry, but who brings a baby to a place like that? End of story – no more comments, exposes, or whining about an indisputably first world problem, please! Instead, we were at a local place... Read more »