We can't just "go on" after a massacre

I’ve never had someone I loved taken from me by gunpoint. I hope this statement is true the rest of my life. I hope this statement is true for my children, and their children, and their children’s children. For an increasing amount of Americans, this statement isn’t true.

I have no idea how these families “go on.” I have no idea how these mothers wake up the next morning and hold their other children. I have no idea how these fathers tuck their other loved ones in at night, knowing what’s been taken from them. I have no idea how anyone can forgive. I know they will never ever forget.

But we do. The nation as a whole expresses its outrage. Thousands of pieces like this are written and get shared on social media sites. People read, people comment, and then life goes on, until it doesn’t. Until it happens again. Until we go through the motions of another massacre. Yes, you read that right. We have endured massacre after massacre as a nation and we do nothing to change it. Einstein is believed to have said, ““The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.” We are insane.

It is insane to think that turning off the television will make the problem go away. It is insane to think that sending prayers to the families of those taken by gunpoint will make the situation better. It is insane to think that these words will reach the ears/eyes of anyone who will do something about all of it.

It is also insane to believe that we don’t have a gun problem or a mental health problem in this country. We do. I said it, you can disagree with me all you want, and I’ll fight you tooth and nail about it. I’d rather choose to invest my energy somewhere useful. Somewhere that might actually produce a different outcome.

But, like many others who feel outrage and fear after events like these (or lives are becoming increasingly full of events like these), I feel like there is little I can do but to go on and hope that this never happens to me. To take a gamble that my beautiful little boys are never in the wrong place at the wrong time. I can fill my life with love, I can try to help others do the same, but I can never be sure.

America, we are fucking insane. Can we please stop just going on?

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