I’m not a morning television watcher, but Hayden Panettiere’s recent appearance on a morning show made its way to me via a dear Stable Mable viewer. After watching the clip, I want to stand and cheer, and bear hug the hell outta that beautiful woman after she took a stand for mothers experiencing postpartum depression. Panettiere’s talk show conversation began with her character’s experience with the illness, but Panettiere did something very powerful after discussing her character. She mentioned that PPD was something that she could relate to firsthand. Another celebrity, who we imagine lives a charmed life, real talked about her difficulties dealing with postpartum depression. Here is the clip, in case you missed it.
I really like what Panetteiere has to say for two reasons. The first is that she makes mention about the broad spectrum of experience that lies under the term Postpartum Depression. She says, “You don’t realize what broad of a spectrum you can really experience that on. It’s something I think that needs to be talked about [a] women need to know that they aren’t alone.”
I’ve known more than a few courageous ladies who’ve had to put up with the PPD experience and our experience was all different save for the feeling of not being able to control our feelings and that we couldn’t speak up about what we were feeling. I’ve seen women so crippled by the experience they couldn’t get up and dress themselves, let alone care for their children. I lived my days hiding how I was feeling. I was fully showered, my kids were cared for, and I fantasized about killing myself…daily.
This leads me to the second comment that Panettiere makes that I applaud. She states,“It’s something that is completely uncontrollable, and it’s painful, and it’s really scary and women need a lot of support. We do something that no man can do on this planet.” Yes, girl, it is, and we need more women to speak up about it, to make it real to those who chalk PPD up to just being “hormonal” or lazy.
Some discussions with those who follow my page already shed a little light about how unsupported women felt in the post-baby experience. My wonderful reader felt that a disproportionate amount of time was spent on preparing for labor and delivery, but virtually no time was spent preparing the mother for a possible PPD experience. I remember my birthing class was all rainbows and unicorns with nary a mention of the crazy shit that could go down later. I also remember the barrage of questionnaires that I met at every doctor’s appointment (both mine and his). I openly lied on each one of these because I didn’t want people to think I was a bad mother. Maybe the systems that are in place aren’t working in the mother’s favor? What more do you think could be done to support postpartum mothers? I’d love to hear your idea here or on Facebook. Your voice is strong and needs to be heard!
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