Dear Black Man: I Am Not Your Enemy

Dear Black Man: I Am Not Your Enemy
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By Shemeka Michelle

Black women are angry, have bad attitudes, and are hard to deal with.

That seems to be the tune that so many Black men sing.

I often make such an absolute post on social media like the leading statement, in an effort to look into the minds of people. While there are many Black men and women who have a great deal of love for one another, there seems to be so many more that consider the opposite sex of their own race, their greatest enemy.


I often hear Black men state that they don’t have time to deal with the attitude of a Black woman. However, many times, these are the same Black men that are stacked with their own flaws. Yet women are expected to deal with those flaws with a smile. I don’t think a man should have to deal with a combative attitude from a woman. I do, however, believe he should love her enough to want to give her a different perspective. In my observation, there remains a lack of understanding, and compassion for the very women that birthed mankind.

It’s true, Black men have faced a lot of hardships in this country. When you have to fight in society, the last place you should have to suffer a belittling disposition is at home.

A woman should be your silence in a loud world. Still, I wonder if anyone has ever stopped to think about the fact that Black women have experienced these same hardships even if it was in a different capacity. You couldn’t protect us from being raped by massa. FAST FORWARD.

The same dogs that attacked men over basic human rights attacked women.

FAST FORWARD. We are now also dying from the hands of the same white supremacy.

How can Black men and Black women lack such empathy for one another?

There are many reasons why a Black woman may come across angry.

For some, it’s learned behavior.

For others, it may very well be that she fell off a cliff, and it was a Black man that pushed her to the edge.

Both men and women have allowed outside interferences to tear us apart. WE are not each other’s enemy! The argument about who did what to whom first should be irrelevant.

The focus should be on building our community. I believe this to be true: We will never heal our community until we first heal the people in it!

Shemeka Michelle.

Shemeka Michelle.

About Shemeka Michelle: “I was that chick. Gave it all up, all of it. I put all my eggs in one basket. Didn’t have a plan because I believed in plan A. Then one day, all of it came to an end. All I could do was take it. I’m a survivor with 3 kids I HAD to make it! So instead of dying from pain and hiding in shame, I’ve decided to get NAKED.” Follow Shemeka on Twitter.

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