By Charles Dixon
One of the most dangerous threats in the jungle of love today is the FRIEND.
The friend, who used to be referred to as “that’s my home girl/my dude, we got history, we go way back and so on,” has taken on an entirely new meaning.
The term is used so loosely that friend now means my casual sex partner that I’m cool with.
That same friend can slither around in the homes of married couples, blend in “the circle,” attend family gatherings, and even support special events etc.
There’s the friend you hang out with and take trips or outings with. There’s the I-need-a-favor friend, the one who gives the desired help/assistance and you in turn, give sex. Whatever their role and/or convenience, friends today have infiltrated the very strength of relationships, UNDETECTED.
In these cases, there’s a mutual agreement between friends to “scratch the itch.”
This is an unnecessary evil that certainly need to be cut off at the root; intimacy is best reserved for the committed when the goal is to have a future together.
Let’s think about it, who wouldn’t sign up for a job where you can get the paid relief without the work; so in the case of a relationship, why would someone do the things necessary to commit if the reward is distributed elsewhere (a.k.a. your friend) without earning it?
This is the reason why so many people are single and wishful, because there’s no reservations needed for your love.
Even stores will tell you if you can find a better price, bring the receipt and we’ll honor it. So how do you think this type of agreement would sit with the person that you actually want to commit to?
Could you take it in return if that same person says to you: “Looks like you’re already in a commitment with your friend,” or “Isn’t your friend already receiving the goods, than why do you need me?”
Even worse, what if the person you want to commit to asks, “How much?” after learning that you dabbled in the goods and services trade with your “friend?”
Think about that!
Charles Dixon III is the host of Unique Perspectives Love Talk Radio. Tune in on Monday night at 7:30 p.m. to discuss this topic of the dangerous friend.