By Zondra Hughes
Hey lady, have you shelved your dream in pursuit of a paycheck? Or, are you stuck in a place where you really don’t want to be? If so, this blog is for you. Powerhouse women Mikki Taylor, Sonia Jackson Myles, Loni Love, and MC Lyte appeared at the 9th annual Disney Dreamers Academy with Steve Harvey and Essence Magazine. The ladies gave a frank pep talk to the parents who attended the event.
Here are their six tips for the woman in transition.
1. Ignore your nay-sayers.
Loni Love of The Real says she spent 8 years of her life as an engineer before she decided to follow her calling in comedy.
2. Learn to say, ‘Yes.’
“Don’t over-think your dream,” says Sonia Jackson Myles. “Learn how to be decisive, learn how to move forward. Trust your instincts and trust your gut. Learn how to say yes, because if the opportunity was presented, it deserves to be yours.”
3. Stop pretending to be a superhero in front of your kids; the transparency will help you both, says MC Lyte.
MC Lyte suggest that you sit your children in a room full of elders, and talk openly about adversity and the hard times that you’ve survived.
“Share some of the adversities that you’ve gone through. [Being transparent] shows that mommy and daddy are not superman, there are problems that they’ve had to go through, and then the child realizes that he/she can get through their own problems as well.” Oh, and you’ll shed the stress of having to be perfect in front of your kids while you pursue your dream.
4. Go big or go home.
“Dream phobia occurs when we play it small,” explains Sonia Jackson Myles, author of The Sister Accord: 51 Ways to Love Your Sister. “Dream phobia occurs when we are more concerned with staying small to please others or playing it safe to please ourselves, rather than doing all that is necessary to design our destiny.”
5. Check on your dreams often.
Love your kids, support them, but don’t put your dreams on hold, advises Loni Love: “Check in on yourself. Check in with yourself. You have to remember yourself. Don’t get caught up in your child’s dream, check in on yourself, too.”
6. You have one life to live, be great!
“Life is not a dress rehearsal,” says Mikki Taylor. “This is it. It’s never too late to have a dream, if it’s instilled in you, then do it.”
Follow the Disney Dreamers Academy conversation on Twitter #ddaDisney.
Zondra Hughes is a digital storyteller and creator of The Six Brown Chicks. Follow Zondra on Twitter @ZondraHughes
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