By A Comeaux
As per usual, while perusing the social media stratosphere, I kept running across this ‘debate’ of sorts about Should a Woman Fix Her Man’s Plate…?
Now the first time I saw a think-piece on this, I kept scrolling. Then I saw it like 5011 other times and I then wondered which (non)Housewife committed such blasphemy! Which mistress made up for ‘what ya woman won’t do, your girlfriend will’…? Who? What? Why is this a THING!?!
I still don’t know those answers but after reading a few heated exchanges I thought I should share some of my findings and reveal my stance.
Usually, I write from all points as to keep things objective with a perspective larger than just our own, but this struck a bit of a cord. The fact that this is a real topic of discussion is enough of a problem.
Not to mention the lonely, hungry men on the couch looking at the food line as their Bae in there getting all the good pieces with ample extra sides and he’s left to fin for himself in what’s now the jungle of the living room at her family’s house. Whew! Cold world.
I see her prancing back to the table with her accompanied cold pop and slice of 7Up cake that there is no more of, and chants, ‘he family now he better get in where he fit in’… I digress. But this is what my mind painted, I’m just the messenger, anyhow, Who does this? That’s not rhetorical, really, who, tell me, does this?
A few words were used and later shunned, like ‘serve’, King, honor, please, take care of, etc. When women and wives chimed in confessing it no less than a pleasure to bring their men a plate, to keep him comfortable and happy was a duty filled with ease.
There were the women who felt otherwise.
That a man should bond with and get acclimated to the family and how things go on his own. They felt ‘serving’ him his plate was an outdated regime and that’s just not a thing of today’s woman…
I personally will serve and take care of mine. I would make my man and my child’s plate first, likely mine as well, but certainly get them theirs with no question or hesitation. It has nothing to do with women being raised by single mothers. Que; everything you do as a grown woman in the bedroom ain’t because ya mama taught you, is it? We are accountable of the woman we are.
Maintain yourself as a queen until you meet your equal, then you’ll have no qualm taking care of him as well.
I’m A Comeaux and I will make Bae plate, because Bae loves on me just as good!
A Comeaux is the writer, speaker and actor who poetically paints pictures of life and love with a paradoxical perspective. Follow her on Twitter @KCOSpoke
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