So I’m on twitter minding other people’s business when I run across a tweet of attributes required of woman worthy to be dubbed ‘wifey’ material.
Now upon initial view I slightly gagged but as I scrolled down my timeline, I noticed this ‘List’ sparked quite the debate! The young lad who published this knew not the wrath he’d ensue, but when you list ‘NO weave’ first on your list… ya gotta know blood will boil! He went on to write things that were wildly as unrealistic as they were contradictory.
Think, virgin-like past and porno-like skills. Pray for him. Then the ladies’ retort solidified why the single out number the latched.
Don’t misconstrue my point, I think we should have an idea of our partner and that idea should be reflective of our life goals and desires. Additionally, it’s fine to be ambitious on said ‘List’ with room for personal development.
But. That’s. Not. What. Happened.
If we have the expectation that people will come perfect from the ‘List’ of our fantasies, well keep watching Marvel movies waiting for Super-Man and Wonder Woman!
Have we become so jaded that we stopped seeing the good in potential? Have we become so dismissive of our faults that we’ve left no room for our lovers’ flaws?
Upon first thought, I’d say this ‘List’ is why we’re single and most times dateless. Yet, we wrote the ‘List’ so onus is on Us!
When you sit down and write the core of a woman listing superficial things like how she wears her hair instead of the condition of her heart, it proves you’re not ready for love. When you list a mans qualities consisting of girth and account balances, it proves you’re not ready to weather a storm should those things ever be compromised.
I’m no relationship expert and yes I’m single. But it’s not because of ‘the list’, I’m looking for something deeper. The heart and spirit of my lover over body types and credentials. There are things that look good, then there are things that are good for you! Yeah, I want both, with one not being greater than the other. Love. That’s my list. Everything else is secondary.
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Burn your ‘List’ and start living!
A Comeaux is the writer, speaker and actor who poetically paints pictures of life and love with a paradoxical perspective. Follow her on Twitter @KCOSpoke
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