Women tend to make assumptions about men based what we observe or what men reveal to us.
However, there are some hidden nuggets of knowledge that women fail to realize because we are jaded by negative myths and perceptions, selective memories, and personal experiences.
Many women have the tendency to assume at least four things about men upon first glance, an initial conversation or basic interaction that may not be necessarily true.
The 4 Assumptions Women Shouldn’t Make About Men
Assumption 1. He has a good job, so he’s a good man.
Ladies, a man’s job is not who he is, it’s what he does to earn money.
So many women take more pride in the fact that they are dating, married to or sleeping with a man with a ‘distinguished’ occupation, and forget that he is who he is with you at home and not at work.
Assumption 2. He goes to church, so he’s a good man.
Ladies we get so excited when we see a man suited and booted up ready for Sunday service and reading the Bible, but unfortunately it is not safe to assume that he is living his life as a Christian man. Rather than shouting for joy at the fact that he can quote a scripture and goes to church, look at the scriptures he lives on a daily basis and go from there.
Assumption 3. He’s dressed to the nines, so he’s a baller.
Just because a man is wearing a suit does not mean he’s successful, and if he’s not wearing a suit doesn’t mean he’s not successful. How many of us have seen a man in a suit and we assumed he was on his way to a fancy downtown office with a gorgeous view of Lake Michigan? Or how many of us have seen a man casually dressed on our way to work and presumed he didn’t have a job? Either way this prejudice is something that we shouldn’t do because we don’t know his occupational status.
Assumption 4. He’s a boss, so I don’t need to hustle.
Bosses like bosses, not ladies of leisure. If I had a penny for every time I heard a woman say she wants her man to be a boss, or she’s looking for a boss…I would be a very wealthy woman! Ladies I understand the feeling and need for wanting a man who is successful, but one thing I’ve learned over time is that bosses like people who work or have something going for themselves. And even if your man or ‘boss’ doesn’t want you to work in the workforce, he wants you to work in some way on the home front. Get my drift ladies?
In other words if you want a boss you need to be a boss as well.
I hope these four nuggets were helpful and will shed some light on how we look at people–not just men. Truth be told we may never know the presumptions someone will make about us!
Liz Lampkin is a woman of God, Educator, Speaker, Mother, Sister, Daughter, Friend, and Encourager living in purpose on purpose. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
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