Category: family stories

She chose great, and so do I

Awhile back, I honestly can’t remember when, I decided to respond to this question, “How are you today?” With this answer:   “Great!” Or if not great, maybe wonderful or something along those lines – it’s not even something I think about anymore, it’s become a habit. Is this always true you may ask? Well,... Read more »

A 10-year-old sees the beauty in the simple

My daughter was outside today collecting bits of glass from the street.  I resisted the urge to ask why or to tell her why she should be careful. She’s turning 10 this month so I am beginning the process of trusting and gently letting go. She came inside with a bag of different colored glass... Read more »

The grass is green on both sides

I get to be alone today.  Not just for a little while, but for a full day and night. This is quite uncommon, but also a very welcome experience.  I love my extroverted high intensity time with my family and friends, but the other half of me is quite introverted – I love being alone.... Read more »

Today I went to a soccer game and something weird happened

My daughter has played soccer for 3 or so years now.  I’ve gone to the games, cheered, done the things that moms do. She has always enjoyed playing and has looked forward to the season, but for me, the games have blended into one another – just a lot of kicking, running, and snacks. But... Read more »

Ten beautiful things I heard/read this week (8/10/12)

1. From Michael Singer’s book, The Untethered Soul – Regardless of your philosophical beliefs, the fact remains that you were born and you are going to die. During the time in between, you get to choose whether or not you want to enjoy the experience. Events don’t determine whether or not you’re going to be... Read more »

Ten beautiful things I heard/read this week (in no particular order)

1. Jacey, talking about a classmate that tends to get in trouble: “He’s not mean or anything – he just doesn’t always make good choices.  I really love it when he laughs; it’s a good laugh.” 2. From a book that my sister gave me: Believe in something big. Your life is worth a noble motive. ~... Read more »

Liberating my daughter by walking out of Brave

Skylar and I are on a date – we are seeing Brave at the local theater. About half way into the movie she says, “Can we go? I’m tired.” I’m kind of tired, too.  The movie is beautiful in many ways, colors and imagery, but I’m bummed about the witch angle.  I’m a bit bored... Read more »

Why a guy needs to ask a woman 10 times if she is OK

Todd and I talked about this on Zen Parenting Radio last week, but I felt it necessitated a longer explanation. As women we can laugh about needing to be asked 10 times if we are OK – we identify with it, we normalize it, and we validate other women when they do it. But the best thing... Read more »

My grandmother knew

My parents are getting ready to move, so last weekend we cleaned out their house. There was so much to let go of, so much to sift through, so many treasures to find. My favorite treasure was a notebook that used to belong to Elizabeth Cassani – my grandmother and my dad’s mom. My grandma... Read more »

Be here now, no matter where you are

My dad is in the hospital today. This is a difficult time for him, but in many ways he is calm and present. Yesterday he said to me, “You know, growing old is a hassle.” Such a great word – growing old isn’t awful, bad, scary, just a hassle. Then he said with a smile, “But... Read more »