In my 46 years, you would think that I would know exactly who I can love with abandon, and whom couldn’t trust past my ability to throw them.
But I don’t. I still don’t. And that pisses me off!
One of the multiple chinks in my armor is I trust everyone immediately, without question, without hesitation. Until you give me a reason NOT to trust you.
I automatically assume you will represent the best of who you are, because that’s what I do. I’m a ‘what you see is what you get’ type of gal, that’s how I was raised. I will shake your hand firmly, look you straight in the eye and lay everything on the table. There is no guessing, no games, nothing.
I pride myself on this. It makes me who I am and makes you realize from the get-go who you’re dealing with. I will tell you what I expect and I expect you to reciprocate. If this is too much to expect, then perhaps we need to re-evaluate our relationship.
I’m not going to say that this whole mentality has worked out the best for me, because it hasn’t. I’ve been burned six ways from Sunday, more than I can blog about. But somewhere deep inside me, somewhere deep, deeeeeep inside me, I have a faith in mankind.
I still believe in love. I still believe in faithfulness. I still believe in honesty. I still believe in commitment; not just from a spouse, but from friends and family as well. So when you do something outside of The Code, it rocks me to my core and makes me question whom exactly the fuck you are.
I’m not perfect, I know this, and I’m more than willing to admit my faults. But damn! At least own up to your shit and I’ll respect you even more. Don’t ever throw your insecurities on other people, that’s not cool. At least if you’re willing to be honest with yourself, then I’m willing to be honest with you.
Love is love. Honesty is gold. Family is everything. And once you realize this, then you’re set. It’s so simple, yet so complicated for others to understand. It comes down to a choice.
So where so you stand? Do you choose to share everything with your family, or hold back? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject, please comment on this blog to keep the conversation going.
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