If Only I Knew...

If Only I Knew...


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Do you ever say to yourself, “If only I knew then what I know now…” From time to time those thoughts try to ambush me.

If only I knew then to invest my money in retirement in my early 20’s, then I would be living extra large.

If only I knew then how to say “no” freely and without guilt.

If only I knew then that family doesn’t always love you like you think they should – if at all.

If only I knew then that there are givers and takers. If you’re a giver, guard your heart like a taker otherwise everything will be taken from you.

If only I knew then that you have to let your kids work stuff out on their own, suffer a little, without you running behind them.

If only I knew then that my mother did the best she could raising me. I did the best I could raising my sons. And my son is doing the best he can with his.

If only I knew then that eating three pieces of Kentucky Fried Chicken, mashy ‘taters, slaw and a lemon parfait in my youth would contribute to my weight gain adventures now.

If only I knew then to devise an effective work exit strategy BEFORE I saw the handwriting on the wall.

If only I knew then to enjoy my attractive body instead of complaining I was too fat.

If only I knew then to avoid living an ordinary life, I would have become a working artist.

If only I knew then to accept my mom’s invitation to accompany her to Marva Collins honorary event. Mom gave a speech that evening then died early the next morning. Tomorrow is the 31st anniversary of her death.

If only I knew then…to stop mulling over mistakes I made in the past. I learn from them, but  I’ve also learned not to set up house in my regret. That’s what counts. That’s what I know now.

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    I pursued a satisfying career in the advertising industry, served as a volunteer mentor and parent educator at my two (now grown up) sons' schools and have actually stayed happily married for over a quarter of a century. However, my most gratifying achievement was raising my sons well. I'm not saying there wasn't a little bit of hell raising going on, but you live and learn. Now I'm passing the knowledge on to you. My goal is to turn these nuggets of wisdom into reference books for parents.

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