Comment conduct

I love all the comments I get from readers including teachers, quilters and all around terrific human beings on my blog posts. I learn from all of you and feel I have gotten to know you better because of the wonderful comments you leave.

I have only had one time when all of this was not true. I wrote a post about being glad I was never a hot babe and discussed this in conjunction with the now famous picture of Maria Kang.

There were some really nasty, personal comments left to me and to my regular readers. This prompted me to install Facebook monitoring of my comments but it was not retroactive. I couldn’t go back and do anything about the already posted comments but I waited. Sure enough the trolls returned and I was able to ban those commenters and their comments.

I’ve been thinking about it since then. What are my rules/ideas about comments? What are my boundaries? In addition, my community manager urged us to come up with a policy. I think he’d prefer we just leave everything up. Some bloggers do that because the fighting creates a lot of traffic and page views.  But for me, life is too short for that nonsense.

As you know, I will never ban a commenter or delete a comment about quilts, you ladies rock! And if I make a mistake, I want to know about it.

But should I ever happen to write another post which brings out the trolls I want to have my boundaries on a button at the top of my blog to click on so everyone knows them.

My own list was roaming around in my head, waiting to come out as a post. Luckily for me, today I was reading about a barn quilt and when I went to make a comment, I saw the first four on this list and borrowed them. OK, copied them. But I am giving them credit!

Here’s my list, the first four from

  • Keep it Clean. Please avoid obscene, vulgar, lewd, racist or sexually-oriented language.
  • Don’t Threaten or Abuse. Threats of harming another person will not be tolerated. AND PLEASE TURN OFF CAPS LOCK.
  • Be Truthful. Don’t knowingly lie about anyone or anything.
  • Be Nice. No racism, sexism or any sort of -ism that is degrading to another person.
  • Don’t belittle or attack anyone and particularly not for their looks, body or talents.
  • Let’s stick to the subject. Don’t try to promote your product, personal belief system or political ideas.

I have only had one time when I needed to rely on some boundaries and that experience really helped me clarify my thoughts. I won’t leave up comments which don’t follow these comment conduct guidelines. Nope, I will delete them and ban you.

Well this was a boring post, no pictures and no quilts. Boo!

We’ll be back to all the quilt fun with the next post.

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