Category: grief

This Tug of War Was Destroying Him.

This Tug of War Was Destroying Him.
In honor of November being National Adoption Awareness Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by people with widely varying experiences. By Danielle: My husband, Eric, and... Read more »

I Had Been Waiting for Years: Guest Post by Melissa Flanagan

I can’t remember the exact age when I first thought I would struggle to bear children, though I distinctly recall having that thought sometime early on in high school.  Maybe it was the overly-painful, difficult menstruation I experienced at too young an age, or perhaps just intuition, but somehow I knew.  And I was right.... Read more »

We Are Not Complete

We Are Not Complete
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »
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Custody Day: A Strong Girl from the Start

Custody Day: A Strong Girl from the Start
In honor of the anniversary of my daughter’s custody day, which conveniently falls during National Adoption Awareness Month, I am posting a letter I have written to her.  This will be the only Portrait in our series of 30 Adoption Portraits that was not written by a guest. Custody Day By Carrie Goldman My dearest... Read more »

Pain Among Beauty

Pain Among Beauty
In honor of November being National Adoption Month, Portrait of an Adoption is running a special series called 30 Adoption Portraits in 30 Days.  Designed to give a voice to the many different perspectives of adoption, this series will feature guest posts by adoptees, birthparents, adoptive parents, waiting adoptive parents, and foster parents-turned-adoptive parents.  Painful... Read more »

The Online Community Grieves as Donna's Cancer Story Comes to Final Chapter

The Online Community Grieves as Donna's Cancer Story Comes to Final Chapter
The posts are going quickly now, and Donna’s remaining days are few.   The final chapter in Donna’s Cancer Story will be told on October 1st.  There is a nameless, hovering sense of dread among those of us reading Donna’s Cancer Story, coupled with a wistful clinging to the moments of joy. Mary Tyler Mom is... Read more »
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Did I ruin my life by having/ adopting these kids?

Tonight I went to visit a friend, N, who has eight-week-old twins.  She also has a one-year-old.   Three healthy babies, a blessing that millions of people wish for. And along with those three beautiful babies, she and her husband have a house full of chaos, no sleep, mounting financial concerns and no ability to get... Read more »

Mother's Day, On Loss and Joy

This morning while I was running, my thoughts drifted back to Mother’s Day 2003.  I rarely think about that time, and if I do, it is only on the periphery of my mind.  I touch on it with words like grief and loss, but I dance cautiously around the concrete memories.  Tears soon mingled with... Read more »

The Best Second Mother

The Best Second Mother
Two weeks ago, Andrew and I were trying to move the girls through their evening routine.  We had just finished dinner, and it was time to start the bath.  Andrew reached the top of the stairs first, toting a chortling Cleo, and Annie Rose scrambled up behind him. As Katie and I climbed the stairs,... Read more »
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Adopted by the Geeks and Nerds

Andrew and I were the first ones to adopt K.  She has lived with us from the time she was several months old, and we have escorted her through the ups and downs of daily life for seven years. And then last month there was the great water bottle incident, where K was teased for... Read more »