Why does the Supreme Court’s ruling on marriage equality matter to adoptees, adoptive parents, and birth parents?
Because we know what it’s like to fight for the right to be viewed as a family by the rest of society. We learned long ago what so many people are still struggling to accept: that the sanctity of family transcends gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, and age.
We know the pain of having people say, “you aren’t a real family” as we fight to be acknowledged as legitimate.
We know what it’s like to be a parent of a transracial adoptee and have others question our right to be a family.
We know what it’s like to be a Jewish parent who adopts a non-Jewish baby and have others question our right to be a family.
We know what it’s like to be two moms or two dads out on a Sunday walk with our children and have others question our right to be a family.
We know what it’s like to be a birth family standing alongside an adoptive family at a child’s birthday celebration and have others question our right to be a family.
And we know what the answer is to all those who question us:
Love wins. LOVE is the answer.
Love speaks louder, and louder, and louder, until our voices joined together create such a triumphant roar that even the loudest screams of rage cannot topple us. We know that love and respect and honor come from doing the best we can every single day, standing alongside the people we choose to call family.
We know that respecting families starts with respecting the individual. Birth parents have the right to choose adoption – or NOT – and we should not allow others to make the decision for them. We know that adoptees have the right to know their whole identities, and we should not be afraid of the truth. We know that adoptive parents have the right to be called Mom and Dad, with all the glory and honor and agony that accompanies those roles, and we should not diminish them.
And we know that two people who choose to be a forever family through same-sex marriage have that right, just as we have the right to create our forever families through adoption.
Portrait of an Adoption is proud to stand with equality, to stand on the right side of history. We stand with love. We know what it’s like to fight to be a family, and we honor and respect ALL families. Love speaks louder.
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