I love seeing elderly people holding hands. It gives me hope that I will live out my days with my friend and husband, Peter. We celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary Wednesday and as I thought about our time together, I made a mental list of all the things I have learned so far in my marriage…
- It’s not worth it to be prideful. Whenever we have arguments, within minutes I shout, “STOP! Let’s just talk about it and be friends again!” I also cannot stand the silent treatment, which inevitably gives me a giant pimple by the end of the day.
- I should have let him see me without makeup a long time ago. The first few years were kind of exhausting because I wanted to appear attractive all the time. Finally, I couldn’t take it anymore and washed off my ever present eyeliner and let my skin breathe! That’s when you know a man really loves you. When you can go au naturel and your husband says, “You are beautiful.”
- We will never go back to the “good old days” and as good as those days were (before kids and the chaos of life) I never want to go back.
- I know we are on the same team. When you have kids, you often need a friend when the short people in your house gang up on you…
- Our relationship is still based on making each other laugh and even though we might be exhausted at the end of the day, we find happiness and laughter over some tea and a jigsaw puzzle. (I embrace being a nerd with my husband!)
- Kids change everything. I used to hear people make this statement before I had kids, never believed it, and now I am saying it. Kids change everything.
How long have you been married? What opinions did you have about marriage that have changed over the years?