I have never considered myself to be a wet blanket when it comes to artistic expression. Over the years I have learned to embrace the phrase, “to each his own” and try to omit all judgement from my being. Of course, I am not perfect and find myself judging others more often than I would like.
But, there is one area when I cannot hold back and that is the encouragement of young girls to dress like mini pole dancers when they are in a dance competition.
I was at a local event recently where dancers of all youthful ages were performing. I cringed at one of the outfits on a 10-year-old girl – hot pants and a bikini top. I was even more horrified to observe that this little girl had a fake glittery tattoo around her belly button. As the children gyrated around the dance floor, thrusting their pelvises about, I took a closer look beyond the make up and revealing clothing and realized that these girls were great dancers. I was so distracted by the inappropriate attire I almost forgot to recognize they were talented.
I looked around at the other overly self-tanned children with fake eye lashes and I have to admit, I thought to myself,
“I don’t want my daughter to be a part of this crowd.”
Dancing is an art. And I am not opposed to highlighting the beauty of a woman’s features and body. The key word being WOMAN. I am opposed to the encouragement of young girls to dress far beyond their years.
As the club music and air grinding took place on the dance floor, I concluded that this show lacked original creativity and solid professional dance leadership. I know other dance organizations do not promote this look and revere dance as a beautiful moving expression of talent, because I have seen other dance competitions.
As my family left the event, my mind was brainstorming alternative activities for my daughter to participate in. Soccer, art classes, music lessons… I want my daughter to have a healthy self-esteem and be respectful of her body.
And then I pulled myself back from my judgement. I shouldn’t rule out all dance! There are many organizations who offer classic and classy forms of dance. I am not sure where they are, but if my daughter wants to dance, we will embrace that style of leadership.
and highlight the talent of the dancer?
Would classic ballet be better?