Welcome back to 20 Questions and our LAST post in the series! Today we have with us Rha Goddess, career expert and founder of Move The Crowd, an entrepreneurial training and career coaching company for the next generation of movers and shakers. Rha believes that work can be a vehicle for creative expression, financial freedom and social change, and Move The Crowd’s unique philosophy teaches how people can “stay true, get paid and do good.” Here are Rha’s answers to my 20 Questions!
1. Who are you?
My name is Rha Goddess.
2. What do you do?
I am an Entrepreneurial Soul Coach and Founder & CEO of Move The Crowd, an entrepreneurial training company dedicated to helping the next generation harness their values, creativity and passion to change the world — and get paid doing it! At the end of the day, each of us just wants to be true to who we are, to be valued and well compensated for what we provide and to make a contribution that matters. That’s what my business is all about — giving people the opportunity to stay true, get paid and do good.
3. Why do you do it?
My burning mission and my purpose on this planet is to unleash people. To empower them to revel in their uniqueness, discover their own burning mission and purpose and make that profound difference in the world that only they can make.
4. How did you find your way to it?
Ah…mine was not a conventional road. There have been lots of twists and turns — from majoring in Chemistry at Vassar, to starting a hip-hop record label rooted in social activism and performing all over the world, to healing my relationship to capitalism and becoming an entrepreneur. But ultimately it was my passion for social change meeting my deep desire to help people build sustainable social impact.
5. How do you feel when you do it?
Like I am doing exactly what I’ve been called to do, what I have been placed on this earth to do. It feels amazing!
6. What is the joy that keeps you up at night?
I am always thinking about the big picture, the cumulative impact of our work. How many souls can we touch? How many lives can we transform? How will they in turn transform others? This entrepreneurial soul coaching is intimate, often one-on-one work. But at the end of the day, for me, it’s about building a movement. A new culture. A new society.
7. What is one thing you still have to practice every day?
One thing? There are so many things! I am always practicing! The big thing right now is to remember that this work is blessed and that I don’t have to “stress” about how to make it happen. I can just focus on what’s in front of me and let the beautiful mystery unfold.
8. What are you always searching for?
I am always deepening and broadening my relationship to Spirit through spiritual wisdom and insights. Those great insights enable me to create anything I desire in love, in life and in leadership.
9. What have you found after searching?
I am not alone. I am deeply cared for. My world is abundant. Change is inevitable. Love is far more powerful than fear. Spirit trumps ego every time. And I am part of a greater movement and commitment to forge a better world, so my work is being leveraged with the work of so many others who also genuinely care about the state of our planet and the state of human consciousness. (You asked!)
10. How do you stay connected to your inner core of peace?
Stillness. Quiet. Meditation. Prayer. Laughter. Nature. Water. And chocolate!
11. What makes you feel led or guided?
I see signs constantly. I can be in prayer or meditation about a situation and the solution will flow to me. I can be thinking about someone and they will call. I can speak of an idea and within the hour connect with someone who is working on the same thing. The instructions are crystal clear. And sometimes the instructions are as simple as, Don’t worry about it. All is well.
12. What do you do when you can’t hear God (or the Universe, or Source, or your intuition) speaking to you?
I SLOW DOWN. Someone recently told me that Spirit does not share the stage with all of our drama, noise and business. It will just patiently wait until we are still. So I get STILL. And listen.
13. What is the difference between resistance and fear?
Ahh…both have many faces and are very good at hiding or masking themselves! Resistance can come from fear, but it can also come from conditioned habits, preferences or perceptions that lead us to believe that something is “bad” or “wrong” or “pointless” or “unnecessary” or “inconsequential.” So we rail against it, actively or passively. Resistance is fighting the normal tides of change. Holding on to the old and often obsolete in the face of something new. Note: this is the non-activist definition:) Fear can also come from conditioning, but it’s often rooted in the belief that harm will come from our pursuit of something we want, even if that thing is something we believe in. The greatest fear is being separated from others, whether through embarrassment, failure, isolation, persecution or even achievement. Our deepest fear is always about doing something that could jeopardize our sense of belonging. Resistance challenges change. Fear challenges belonging.
14. Where does the idea come from that we are broken, unworthy or undeserving?
There are complex systems of human conditioning that are centuries old that are rooted in a desire to dominate, manipulate and control all in the name of power, influence and material gain. These various systems of domination have broadcast these messages over generations — messages that ingrain insecurity as a “normal” part of our humanity. These messages flow through every major institution in our society, including at work, church, school and home. But the truth is that even though these insecurities are common, they are anything but “normal.” The two greatest cultural wounds we must heal as humanity are (1) the myth of scarcity and (2) the myth of separation. Much has been invested in keeping us scared, small and isolated, so these paradigms of advantage persist primarily in the name of financial gain. This is the culture of greed and exploitation at its worst. Madison Avenue did not invent “insecurity,” though they definitely have capitalized on it. These lies date back thousands of years, even before the days of Christ.
15. How do you move past that to connect with others on a soul level?
I remind myself that it’s all a lie. And that the truth is that I am love and we are love and each of us is here for a purpose. The opportunity in my life and in my work is to help heal anything that stands in the way of the truth of who we are. It begins with me, but it radiates out to everyone I have the privilege to interact with. I see the love in everyone and in everything. It’s not easy, but it is very necessary. This is what it means to be free. To come from love no matter what. That is my commitment: to be free and to always come from love.
16. How do you create a welcoming environment for inspiration and creative design, both in the workplace and at home?
It begins with really thinking about the symbols and the colors and the textures and the smells that activate inspiration for me. Inspiration can be sensually experienced. I love candles and aromatherapy, so I have various oil burners for my essential oils (lavender, ylang ylang) that I strategically place in my work and play areas. I have several Buddha statues and a mindfulness bell in my office — some days I need the bell more than others. I surround myself with inspirational quotes on my phone, on my desk, on my bulletin board. My favorite colors are purple, red, orange and green, and I’m either always wearing those colors or have gorgeous fabrics draped in those colors around me. Meditative music is always on. My husband calls it my “walk into the wall” music, but I know he really loves it.
17. What is the one thing you never, ever worry about?
If I’m loved and cared for. I know the creator and the universe have my back.
18. How do you heal from a deep, long-standing hurt, whether perceived or real (is there a difference)?
I don’t know that there is a difference. If it feels real, then it is real. Pain is pain. Hurt is hurt. First you have to make a commitment to heal. Then examine the internal dialogue around whatever the hurt is. And then it’s our 6-step process: (1) Become aware of it. (2) Accept the fact that this is what it is, that this is how I feel. (3) Forgive myself, particularly for any judgment around myself and how I’ve dealt with the pain. And I forgive whomever else I need to forgive, and I release. (4) Then I create a new vision for how I want to feel and what I want to believe as it relates to the old hurt. (5) Act in accordance with the new belief. And (6) I celebrate every moment, every step, every interaction that moves me toward the new vision.
19. What would you say to someone who believes their true nature is solitary or melancholy; can that be true, or are we meant to experience all joy and all unity all the time?
Solitude and silence are necessary for evolution and growth. If you find you have a tendency to always isolate, you may want to challenge yourself to engage with others more. As for what we’re meant to experience — we’re meant to experience the spectrum. That is what gives our life and our being richness and depth. There is no one shade of living and healing. What is necessary is understanding the relationship we have with our emotions, with our internal climate and dialogue. If we can embrace that, if we can access any feeling in any moment, then we see it’s all about how we choose to be. Who we practice becoming. As for unity, feeling connected to Source and to all of us as variations of the divine source is a practice. The things that support our practice of connection, like breathing, prayer, meditation, yoga, chanting or the bell are always available. When we see that connection is always available, again, it’s all about choice (and practice).
20. How can I continue to live my truth without wanting to force it on every friend or family member I see who is feeling separation and pain?
Key words here: “my truth.” Your truth is never about dominating, fixing or manipulating others. Your truth is about your BE-ing and allowing yourself to be available to others. There is nothing to fix or force for us or others. If you are living your truth, let your power, joy and love be contagious. Just be at peace if others choose differently, as that is what they are choosing.
Thanks, Rha! I especially love the idea of forgiving yourself for judging yourself and however you may have handled any given situation. That internal dialogue is so important — the healthy, two-way, healing kind, not the berating and self-deprecating kind — I have been working with this lately and it is comforting, productive and helpful. Did you enjoy the 20 Questions series? Is there anyone you would like to see interviewed if I bring the series back in the future? Leave me a comment below and share if you enjoyed Rha’s answers. What a beautiful way to wrap up!
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