Archive for June 2015

Gay marriage ruling: An invitation to compassion

The winds of change are blowing. The ruling from the (supremely divided) Supreme Court frees the rest of the population who happen to be gay and happen to be in love to go ahead and get married if they’d like. It’s a bad time for doom-sayers who predict the ruin of the country – collapsing... Read more »

Lessons from moving: You can box up the past and bring it along

I’m in the middle of clearing out 23 years of stuff in order to move from one house to another and am reminded how very good I am at saving things that appear to be important at the time. Some of them are. In the past few days I have come across my dad’s glasses... Read more »

The 12 things you should know about grieving

Just why I had to write a book about grieving escapes me right now. Do I really think I am the wise one who can enlighten the millions of us who are in grief at any one time? Is it hubris that I have appointed myself the guardian of new ways to look at this?... Read more »

Writers write, parents let go: a dispatch from Iowa City

Reporting from the Midwest stronghold of creative writing for my annual visit: It’s fairly crawling with aspiring novelists, essayists, memoirists, poets, and related others. For a whole week, we meet in groups of 12 under the tutelage of successful writers who actually make a living doing this, trying hard to help us get better. We... Read more »

My questions for the Duggars

Ah, I understand that the Duggars are back, wrenched away from years of self-congratulatory reproduction to find themselves in a bit of a pickle. I’ve been exceedingly busy lately and unable to follow the fallen-from-grace news closely, so I’ve had nothing to say about my nemeses until now. So help me play catch-up: If I... Read more »