I caught myself today writing that I had talked to someone. But then I thought about the conversation, and I realized I had talked with him. I think it’s an expression worth defending.
If I write or say that I talk to someone, the idea of the other person speaking at all is not there.
But talking with someone puts that idea, that second voice, into the conversation — just as walking to someone (you go over to someone who isn’t moving) differs from walking with someone (the two of you going somewhere).
It’s a short distinction, but a useful one, so I’m glad I caught myself — and I’m glad it was a case of talking with this person. After all, doing all the talking is tiresome.
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