Does everything “really” happen for a reason?

Minor damage

Minor damage

I got in a car accident this week. It was minor, and no one was hurt, but why did it happen, fate or happenstance? Then a person was telling me about a recent breakup, and it evolved into discussion about why. Why do relationships end? If that last fight had not occurred, would we still be together? There are also the conversations I have about careers and opportunities? Will I get a publishing deal or only through sheer luck will I succeed?



A common response to life is, “Everything happens for a reason”, but is that true? Or do things just happen with no purpose? Is everything fated so that we have no control? Am I being punished today for my actions in the past? Is this situation whether it is a positive one or negative one simply a result of by being alive or even a natural consequence to some action I took or to a choice I made? Or is it some random chance caused by luck or serendipity? These are definitely questions that wake me up at night.

My father died from brain cancer at the same time that my marriage was ending, so I read book after book trying to make sense of the world. I think that by entering this world, we encounter pain and suffering, joy and happiness. Consequences are the natural response to an action. Some things that happen are a result of our birth, of our life, while other things happen by the choices we make.

Plato was quoted as saying, “An unexamined life is not worth living”. I often reflect on people and situations in my life. I have come to believe that the only meaning or reason that things happen to me is the one that I assign it after self-reflection and awareness of my choices. 

All through my day, no matter where I go, or what I do, I am always looking for the good. I try to find the good in people, in the world, in my life or even just in my day.

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