The New Testament opines, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” That popular Christian wedding reading may set an expectation for love in the context of marriage and family. While we aspire to that pure ideal, love seems more imperfect in reality. We may react with a soft, gentle and open demeanor to shine the type of love that may comfort us.
C.S. Lewis’ book The Four Loves identifies them as affection, friendship, eros and charity. Today, our family feels great affection for football. My heart felt full as our boys cheered for the Kansas City Chiefs in the recent Super Bowl. They love to talk about the game with their Dad and catch the ball with my husband.
Our family feels blessed with deep friendships. Our boys write get well cards for their friends who get sick. They elaborate on their friends’ loyalty. We witness their friendships as they gather before school starts. Our boys locked arms this weekend with friends when their soccer team scored. They congratulated their friends.
Our boys read about mythology with a series they love called Percy Jackson. Thanks to family, who gifted us books about Greek Gods, our boys learn about Eros the Greek God of love and fertility who the Romans called Cupid. Aphordite was the Goddess of love, beauty and fertility.
Many faiths teach that God is unconditional love. We appreciate that selfless and charitable love is a virtue. While love is simple, it should start with self-care. Life gets hectic and stressful. We try to slow down since patience can be a challenge. Daily routines, like brushing our teeth, eating well, proper sleep and doing our best, help us do well for ourselves to best serve others.
What does love mean for your family? Music embodies love for ours. Thanks to our school community, our boys look like angels when they sing in their school choir with friends. Motown music sings about the different types of love. Marvin Gaye sang, “Cause baby there ain’t no mountain high enough… Ain’t no valley low enough… Ain’t no river wide enough… To keep me from getting to you babe.”
As we approach Valentine’s Day this cold time of year in Chicago, we wish you love, light, warmth, safety and joy! We thank friends and family for their kindness and support. XOXO
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