Yeah, me too.

Yeah, me too.

My first reaction to the instructions on Sunday was, “Who hasn’t?”

The phrase “at the very least” kept coming to mind. As if there’s a scale on which we are supposed to rate how bad harassment or assault is. And isn’t there?

Isn’t there this implicit understanding among women that there’s a certain amount of bullshit we have to put up with and fight against?

Aren’t we told as tiny humans that boys only want one thing? That we have to be careful when we’re around them?

A lot of people have rightfully brought up Mr. President’s admitted sexual assaults. How about Mr. Vice President’s tactic for avoiding sexual misconduct by not being alone with women? The assumption here is that men just can’t stop themselves. 

And that’s the problem.

“Me too” is so poignant because most women (and some men) have been there. It’s not a shocked-me-too. It’s an of-course-me-too.

It’s a “hasn’t-everyone-been-felt-up-in-a-crowded-place-me-too”? Been leered at while a man touches himself? Been stalked and yelled at? Been called lewd names? Been groped by a guy you thought you liked but had barely talked to, before you’d ever even had your first kiss, when you were still a child?

Felt as if maybe that meant you asked for it?

Yeah, me too.

Just because it wasn’t rape or being pinned down or serial molestation doesn’t mean that it should be overlooked. Are some acts more heinous than others? Yes. But they are all unacceptable. Period.

And apparently there are some people who don’t know it’s happening every damned day to women of all types, in all walks of life.

You’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted?

Yeah, me too.

For many of us, it’s not shocking to see how many people can say “me too.” But if it is shocking to you, ask yourself what you can do about it.

And by the way, since this also apparently needs to be said: rape, harassment, and assault are not about sex or sexuality or attraction. It’s about power and control, always.

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