Natural thresholding is a strange thing. We are social beings, and based on how our neighbor acts, we may be influenced. We need to be careful to be mature, and make our own individual decisions. We have to set our own trends. Behavior influence can be a wonderful thing to liven up old habits, that need to be updated. But avoid being weak by acting out like someone else. The result is that you always have to apologize to the other person, and yourself. Then you have to reclaim your equilibrium or personal threshold. If you lose your personal threshold, you risk devolving.
Life stages help us get our boundaries and influences right:
1) Preschool and Kindergarten is a wonderful time of individuating, when the baby in us finally has to grow up. The parents have really left, and we are now social beings, with no choice but to let go of the ‘what about me’ attitude. We are getting ready for big commitments: bladder longevity, sitting all day, paying attention to someone we don’t even like for hours, following others, and waiting. No jokes, no smiles, get it right and we will grow up.
2) Junior high and Highschool is a challenging time of checking back with your neighbor for social trending. This is the time of team sports, dating, and rebelling from families – nicely. All team sports require you to check in with your neighbor to get the synchronization right, and still claim your star status as an individual. Dating is about agreeing to social places to go for our couple/group, and about separating out competitors – nicely. You go your way, I’ll go mine. Mostly there is a social threshold regarding how intimate a couple gets, and how they will be treated by their social group. They must observe rules or face rejection.
3) College or Work goes back to the rules of individuating. All of those years of paying attention and doing the right thing worked. We followed the system enough, and built our individuality enough to succeed. With a B+ average we got into the college we wanted, and we got the part-time job without much conflict. Learning to speak and write clearly guaranteed success at the interview. At college the courses are more complex, but still in keeping with the college-prep coursework we have. Separately, the job instructions make sense, and the first few days have gone successfully.
4) As a new Entrepreneur, we have to check back for everything. Do we have the right number of employees? Are they working productively? Does the business we picked appeal to the public? What adjustments are needed to assure consistent success? Is there a system that works, or is a fresh approach needed every time? Will we get to profitability before we outspend our means? Business is a constant checking and correlation of profitability, personalities, morale, and shear determination.