Category: compassion

In defense of the quitters

The word quit gets a bad rap. The mere thought of quitting makes some folks break out in hives.  You know QUITTERS NEVER WIN AND WINNERS NEVER QUIT and so on and so forth. Well, I’m here in defense of the quitters.  I’m here to say I’m a quitter and quitters do quit and are... Read more »
By Katy,
November 14, 2017 at 1:55 pm • 

Things I want my daughter to know as we smash the patriarchy

This was in my daughters art pile from school yesterday. It’s not “pretty”. It’s tough and a little sad but with a tiny smile and achingly beautiful. Just like my girl. I asked her who it was and she immediately said, “OH THAT’S ME”. Of course I added the wording, but when I saw her self-portrait... Read more »
By Katy,
November 10, 2017 at 10:52 am • 

Everything is terrible! Here is some good stuff to counter balance the horrors

I watched Patton Oswalt’s new stand up recently.  It was really good.  I cried and laughed and shook my head and marveled at how he can turn his pain and laughter through pain into something we can all relate to. Among his many gems he did a bit about “I wonder how many AA chips... Read more »
By Katy,
October 25, 2017 at 7:45 pm • 
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Learning how to hurt and then how to heal at age 4 and 44

There’s a pattern to their fights. To their skirmishes. To their kerfuffles. They are four. They are twins. They wrestle and touch each other CONSTANTLY until it gets to be too much and somebody snaps. When they push each other down and call each other names and maybe even bust out an I HATE YOU, I... Read more »
By Katy,
September 20, 2017 at 10:15 am • 

An Open Letter to Makers, Sellers, and Buyers of the Drunk Wives Matter Tumbler

“It’s like mockery, entitlement, and tone deafness all at once. It’s like spinning plates only the plates are made of actual garbage.” – my kick ass favorite friend Terry. An Open Letter to Makers, Sellers, and Buyers of the Drunk Wives Matter Tumbler: I found your ad for your “Drunk Wives Matter” tumbler on my... Read more »
By Katy,
September 15, 2017 at 9:23 am • 

The Day Our President Openly Supported White Supremacy

It was Nikki’s birthday – August 15, 2017. I snuck out of work early to go meet our kids and our Nanny Nikki at the Museum of Contemporary Art and have lunch at Nikki’s favorite restaurant – Potbelly.  Oh wait, that’s the kids favorite restaurant. I should mention the looks that Nikki and I get... Read more »
By Katy,
August 23, 2017 at 12:38 pm • 
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I Found Kindness and Gratitude at the Other End of a Hairbrush

“You ready to have your hair brushed mama?” was the question that greeted me as I arrived home from work yesterday afternoon. This may well be the sweetest development in our 4.5 years together. Monday evening, as my girl was playing with my hair like she does, I asked her to go get my hairbrush.... Read more »
By Katy,
August 2, 2017 at 10:23 am • 

Is Alcoholism a Disease or a Choice?

I have these conversations almost daily.  Somebody is having problems with a family member or friend or themselves and so they ask me these same questions as in this recent text from a friend asking my opinion – I’m not saying everyone is the same, but the sickness is almost always the same.  And it always... Read more »
By Katy,
July 31, 2017 at 1:20 pm • 

Bottle Spotting Bingo

There’s this sick game I play and maybe you do it too. It’s probably mostly alcoholics like me who can spot a bottle a mile away. Like a twisted game of booze bingo.  And then I make up stories of the people who left them there. The discarded. The self medication aftermath. Is there a reason... Read more »
By Katy,
July 11, 2017 at 1:57 pm • 
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I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much

Every time someone dies and there’s cause for speculation as to what they died from, I yell and scream and claw my face off. I do not ever need to know what substances anybody had in their system when they died thank you very much. This person died.  That’s all that’s important.  Can we allow... Read more »
By Katy,
June 20, 2017 at 12:03 pm •