Whatever It Is, That's Not Why You Are Single

I’m not girly enough … I guess that’s why I’m single.

I’m not super skinny … I guess that’s why I’m single.

I’m kind shy … I guess that’s why I’m single.

No. No. And hell no. That’s not why you are single. You’re single because you haven’t found the person who connects with all of the amazing and weird things about you. It’s easy to find someone who has some of the things we are looking for, but why not keep looking for the person who has everything?

That’s a good thing when that guy tells you that he’s looking for someone with x, y or z. He should be looking for his person! It’s awesome that he’s not wasting your time. Not forcing something that isn’t really the right fit. Not settling for just okay. You should be setting that same bar!

When you know what you’re looking for, it’s way easier to find it. Some people say that makes you picky, but it actually makes you smart. Taking note of what worked in the past will help you make the best decisions in the future.

Once you know what you want, go out there to get it. Create a plan that puts you in situations to meet people who fall into that ideal person you have in mind. Be okay with rejection. It’s like finding that perfect dress or your dream car … not everyone is going to be a fit. Don’t take it personally. Instead, look for another place to shop.

Don’t let people make you feel bad for being single. Live your best life and see who can keep up with you for the long haul. Make things happen by tuning everyone else out.

Be a pineapple: Stand tall, wear a crown, and be sweet on the inside.


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