How To Make Sure You Aren't Wasting Time On Bad Dates

I’m up for just about anything. I set a goal in 2016 to go on at least one date a month, and it took a lot of effort to make that happen. Not every date was great, and most didn’t go anywhere. I summed up the experience by comparing my dates to characters from some of my favorite Christmas movies.

Some people said that it didn’t seem like it was worth the time to go on these dates because I ended 2016 the same way I started. Alone. I thought they were kidding. I would much rather swing and miss and to not swing at all! But I’ve been talking to many people over the last two years and they are so frustrated with dating that they would rather stay at home with a nice glass of wine. It all comes down to wasting time and money. So don’t!

Weed out the people who you know are going to be duds. Go on a date that doesn’t cost much … that’s why coffee dates were invented! Go somewhere or do something that you’ve been wanting to do. It’s not a waste of time or money if you are trying that restaurant you’ve been wanting to go to. Or not missing out on a concert because you didn’t have anyone to go with. I wanted to get better at golf, so I went on a bunch of dates at the driving range. Even if we didn’t hit it off (pun intended), I was making time to practice a sport that was important to me.

There’s always a way to recalculate your ROI (Return On Investment). What’s it worth to you to go on that date? How do you make it worth your time, energy and money? If you can get that formula right, I hope you will take the chance and the time to see what happens. In that Christmas Characters blog, I talk about how I met “Frosty” on one of my dates in 2016, and I’m so happy that I spent the time and energy getting to know him. It wasn’t an easy process, but it was worth the effort as we are still together today.

Don’t be a grinch! You might just miss out on writing your own love story.


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