My older (by two years) friend told me that when you turn 40, everything changes with online dating because the cutoff date that most guys use is 39. Your choices dramatically change. So as I’m less than 40 days away from my 40th birthday, I jumped back on Match.com a few weeks ago to test out this theory.
While I wait out these next few weeks to see if things change, I thought I would share an email from one of the guys who reached out to this 39-year-old. It’s not always easy to start a conversation with a stranger, especially if their profile doesn’t provide much information to get things started. My profile is short, but it sums me up pretty well so usually people ask me about the same things in my profile.
A couple of weeks ago, a guy sent me this. opening line Just this. Nothing more.
“I can’t think of anything more clever than, you’re hot and I want to grab a drink with you.”
At first I was going to ignore it. I figured he copied and pasted that into dozens of emails waiting to see which girls would respond. I wasn’t going to be one of those girls. Then, I checked out his profile and thought that he sounded kinda cool and maybe he was showing his personality in the first email instead trying to cater his message to mine. I wanted him to put more effort into the message, but with the way online dating works, I couldn’t fault him for not putting a ton of time into his message. This process can be frustrating.
So instead, I wrote back what I was feeling:
“Ha! I’m curious as to how often that email works for you. It’s a pretty good opening line!”
To which he responded:
“Is it? Well, if we grab a drink, I suppose I’ll be 1-1.”
And then we were off. Through emails and texts, I started to understand his humor, and after that, his first email seemed normal. You put yourself out there genuinely and see who connects. What would you have done? Do you think he sends this to everyone? Comment below!