Take The Elevator (Pitch) To Get A Date

“This is Tracie.  If you ever need anything, she will help you.  Whether it’s getting a job or generating revenue, she is on it.”

That was an introduction by a colleague when I was at a convention last week.  Usually when people introduce me personally or professionally the word “help” is always included, and I like it.  Not just because it’s nice to hear, but because it’s what I want people to know about me.

What does your introduction sound like from your colleagues?  Your friends?  Does it match what you think about yourself?  Knowing who you are isn’t just important when networking professionally.  Being ready with your elevator pitch socially can help you network your way to a date too.  Like in business, you can meet people through the relationships you already have.

When they make the introduction or you meet someone on your own, what are you going to say?  Advice from business folks:

1) Tailor Your Pitch To The Person

DISAGREE – While this makes sense when selling a product, if you do this in dating, you’re not giving them a true look into who you are.  So while being who they want you to be may get you a first date, after a few more they are going to realize you aren’t really that person.  Be yourself.

2) Practice, Practice, Practice

AGREE – Regardless of the outcome of the conversation, keep at it.  Take rejection with stride and keep at it until you find someone who connects with your story.  Be prepared to be yourself.

3) Have Confidence

AGREE – The more you put yourself out there, the more confidence you’ll have.  The less stress you put on every encounter, the easier it all becomes.  Be confident in who you are.

So here are a few questions to get you started on your elevator pitch.

What is your proudest moment?  What’s a random fact about you? What is your best quality?  Bring together the tidbits that show the best picture of you.  If you’re goofy, be goofy.  If you watch bad reality TV, share it.  If your cat is your best friend, well actually, you might want to wait until later to share that.

Always end your pitch with a question that gets the other person talking.  As much as you want them to like you, you need to see if you like them.  Speed dating is a great way to practice, practice, practice.  If you don’t, things like this might come spilling out like they have on some of the speed dates I’ve been on:

– I’m not a child molester

– I don’t like seafood, but I love oyster crackers

– I don’t play sports, but these are fantasy football championship rings

While all of those things may be true, do they encompass who you are?  Is there a better way to share this information?  How do you start a conversation with someone you’ve just met?

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