Amy's Grace=AMYzing Grace

“A man doesn’t own his marriage; he is only the steward of his wife’s love.”- Edwin Louis Cole

My wife has the ability to do so many things. Her smile and laugh can lift me up to such great heights. Her support when I need it is unmatched by anyone or anything. She does more around our house than 1 human person should do and makes it look effortless when she does it. She is the best wife, mom, and I truly am blessed to be married to her.

The thing that stands out right now is how much grace she extends to people, especially me. She always sees the positive side of people even when I am choosing to focus on the negative. She gives people the benefit of the doubt when I am ready to write them off the list. Her faith is so strong that it’s intoxicating to be around and is such an encouragement to me and my faith.

All that being said, when Amy says something to me about our relationship, I had better pay attention. She is a master at speaking truth in love to me, especially when I need it the most. The other day, she made reference to not being very connected to me emotionally or spiritually.

Ouch! Now that’s not the “ouch” of “I just got sucker punched by my wife and she is just flat out wrong”. That’s the “ouch” of “Oh man. She is 100% right and she just totally called me out on it.”

Now maybe some guys would hear that from their wife and not care but I do. Maybe some guys would hear that and blow it off but I’m not that guy. Maybe some guys will hear that and not make the changes necessary to make sure their wife feels more connected to them and feels like their needs are a top priority and that is me. I will make those changes so my wife is happy.

In all honesty, I have been misfiring lately. My training, my prayer life, my over all attitude. With everything going on-wife, 4 kids, job, school, house, training, etc…sometimes I just get lazy. Well all that is going to change now.

The great part is that I don’t have to change that much. My goal is to Glorify God through my life. If I try to do that in all my walks of life, the trickle down of that will be a happy marriage. If a happy marriage is my goal, that might not be a God honoring marriage but if I put God first, follow the instructions that He has laid out for me, one of many effects will be a happy marriage.

This life is so short here on earth and I don’t want to waste any more time playing around. I have been blessed by so much and to whom much is given, much is to be expected.

I thought that possibly some others might benefit from my strategies to improve my emotional and spiritual connection with my wife so here are a few of the things I am planning on doing.

1-More prayer time together. I do ok, but I need to be the leader in this and I think that she needs to hear more of what I am asking God to help me with.

2-More down time together. This one is tough. Our house is crazy busy but I need to actually put this on the calendar or it won’t happen.

3-Bible study together- We lead a newly married couples group and over the last month or so, things have been goofy with people having other activities going on. We are now starting up again so doing a couple’s study together will be a great thing.

4-Put my cell phone/computer away. Those of you that know me, know this is a constant struggle for me and I need help with it. I have told Amy that when we are home together, she has permission to take these things away from me. She has been nice up to now about it and now that I have given her permission to take them away when we are home together, I am sure she won’t be shy about doing it.

So that’s my start. Anyone else out there working on improving your emotional and spiritual relationship with your spouse? Whatcha got? Let’s hear it.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.




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