I like to think I’m in touch with the world I live in. I keep up with the news, I listen to people, I get to know what’s going on. I like to think of my world as a very large sphere where smaller worlds exist within. There’s the news world, work world, my family world, friend world, etc.
It’s amazing how you can see someone every single day, and be totally out of touch with them.
You can stand in front of your students and teach them things everyday. Ask them questions, give them assessments, ask them how their day was. You do this for roughly 30 weeks in a row. 5 days a week. And then you touch base with their counselor, and realize you have no idea who they are, or what they’ve been going through. Funny how you refer to them as “your student”, but you really didn’t know anything beyond their reading comprehension level.
You can be with someone. A partner, in all forms of the word. Share secrets, fears, dreams, celebrations. Share meals, beds, and experiences. And then one day you find out they possess a quality that you never knew existed.
You can have a sibling. At one point they were within a handful of the most important people in your life. Afterall, you share the same blood. Same parents, same upbringing, same education. And then they grow up to be a person you barely recognize. A person you approach with more caution than a stranger.
I just wonder how these things happen. Are people just experts at hiding what’s really inside? Or are people good at changing as they grow up? Maybe people are good at being who you want them to be, until the universe reveals otherwise.
Sometimes someone acts in a way that is just unforgivable. And it’s ok to cut that person loose. But what do you do when you don’t want to cut ties? What if you suddenly realize how out of touch you are with someone, and you want to fix it. Is it even possible? I never know when to try and make something happen versus just let the chips fall where they may. What do you think?
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