For the most part, everyone pretty much has multiple groups of friends. We have close friends who are more like extended family, colleagues who we occasionally communicate with outside of the office, former friends who were once connected through work or school and finally, social media friends.
We typically have set expectations on how each of these different friendships work. We know that we’ll see our colleagues each day that we’re in the office, our extended family members will remain close no matter how often we see or don’t see each other, and that our social media friends will be on social media.
Sometimes in life, friends (and even relatives) grow apart for many reasons, sometimes for no reason at all. When this happens, some of your relationships begin to shift and extended family turn into social media friends and vice versa. I don’t believe any of us would object to a once social media friend growing into much more, but we often question when it happens the other way around.
Losing close friends is even harder these days because of social media engagement. Just think about it. Years ago, if you stopped being friends with someone they’d be out of sight, out of mind pretty much. They may occasionally cross your mind, or you may have even called or written a letter to check in everyone once in a while.
Now, because of the wonderful world of social media, we’re often connected to these people and see them in our timelines or news feeds each day. It’s pretty awkward to go from calling someone your BFF to simply liking and commenting on their posts every now and then. It’s even worse when you don’t know what happened to make things that way. As a communicator by trade, I’m always going to be the one to over communicate and try to make things right, but even I know when to say when.
I’m learning that some people truly are comfortable being your long lost friend who you see everyday. They’re okay with only talking to you on social media, or not at all. At times I understand that people go through things that often cause them to push others away, or want to be alone, but that doesn’t mean it hurts any less.
Currently, I have a few long lost friends who I see everyday. And while it sometimes bothers me that we aren’t where we used to be, I must admit that I’m relieved when I see them posting in my timeline. See that they’re still living life, and love it even more when they like or comment on something I post. It makes me feel that there is no love lost, and offers hope that some day we’ll be more than social media friends again.
In the meantime, I’ll continue to be a good long lost friend who they happen to see everyday.