I am at a loss. A loss of ideas. I know I’m not that smart. I’m witty and clever, but smart? I don’t think so. At least not in the way that most consider someone to be smart. Maybe smart is the wrong word. Educated. There I go. That’s the word I am looking for.
See I didn’t go to college. I didn’t study books. I don’t know my countries. In fact on a map of the world I can only point out the United States, Mexico, Cananda and maybe … no that’s it. I’m not going to lie. I have no idea where Poland is.
I don’t follow sports. I can however name all of the football teams but that’s only because the superbowl is as old as me. And my ex used to spend 10 hours every Sunday glued to the televison rooting for his over under or parlays.
I took the route of being a mom. That is what I wanted to do from the time I can remember thinking about becoming an adult. I knew I wanted 3 children and wanted to “marry” a man that could let me stay at home with them. While other girls were thinking about getting careers and going off to college I was thinking about getting married and having my babies. I set my goal and I acheived it. Come on, it’s a goal. Not just anybody can get pregnant and have a baby… oh wow. Ignore THAT remark (as I see 16 and pregnant on MTV is now in it’s 4th year).
Anyway, now I am an expert at anything related to the caring and raising of children. I have had 21 years to get good at it. And over the years I have learned EVERYTHING about this subject matter. I know you don’t give your baby any blankets to sleep with. I know you don’t give your 6 month old peanuts. I know you never give your toddler coke in a bubba. Or leave them alone with a bucket full of water…. at least not until their body strength catches up to the size of their heads. See I know it all! Sure I learned some of it by trial and error, but my kids made it out alive. I still don’t know how my two year old got out of her carseat, out of the car and found the back door to the bank. That is one mystery I can never solve, but I did learn that you never leave your child unattended in a locked car. My sister learned this the hard way when her two year old got out of his carseat and put the car that was RUNNING into drive and ran into her living room wall. Trial and error. Just like any job. These are the things that make us the experts we are today.
This is alot of information to know. And know it I do. As Im sure alot of other moms do. I stayed at home with these people for 10 years. That’s a long time to stay at any job. Oh, and I didn’t ever call in sick. Ever.
For some reason though, this job that I chose to devote the last decade of my life to is treated like a vacation. “You are so lucky you don’t have to work.” I have heard that alot. Are you kidding me? Can you imagine spending every day eating lunch with a friend who you can’t talk to about 50 Shades of Gray? But that’s not all, you also have to wipe their face and clean up their mess. Can you imagine doing this EVERYD DAY?
I am just saying, I wish mom’s who stayed at home got more credit. When our “bosses” finally go off and leave us alone for 6 or 7 hours everyday, it’s rough. Alot of us are lost. Who are we? What is our life without this little person or people to run and follow all day? So we go off to school and volunteer or become the room mother. We sign up to volunteer at the book fairs and join the yearbook committee. These are all wonderful jobs that need to be done but we know these are going to end soon. You can’t stay on the PTA committee if your children are not even at that school anymore.. can you?
I have worked in the real world and worked at home. I know it’s rough to get up everyday and get dressed and leave the house early and make a living. I was a single mom for 10 years before I got my “cush” stay at home mom job. But I will be honest, staying at home with the kids is more mentally taxing than any job I have done in the past. Wait, is that because I’m not that smart? I mean educated?
My kids are gone all day now, well if you call 6 hours all day, and I am back to being a single mom. And that is why I say I am at a loss. Sometimes I look around and wish my little ones were sitting across from me getting their peas all over the floor or lasagna in their diaper. Sometimes. But then again I wouldn’t have time to blog about nothing or play fruit ninja. I am just glad I didn’t have facebook, pinterest, blogging or fruit ninja when I was staying at home with these babies.
Now I see that the next generation of stay at home moms has a whole new set of obstacles to deal with. They don’t need to worry about where Afghanistan is on a map, they need to figure out a way to stay away from the internet….because if you are staying at home with your little ones, then do them a favor and close your laptop (at least until nap time). I swear in just a few short years you will have time to fill it with things that don’t matter as much as teaching your child the please and thank you song.
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