Archive for August 2017

What to do ASAP when your spouse wants a divorce

I’ve seen plenty of clients immediately after their spouse has put divorce on the table, and not one of them had an inkling of ‘what to do’ next. The news is often unexpected, and feels – well, catastrophic. When we’re in a crisis, survival-based emotional responses hijack our thinking brains. It’s fight or flight. Either... Read more »

Should I Wait or Should I Go?

Is there ever a good time to tell a spouse that you no longer want to be married? It’s human nature to put something like this off, of course. Especially if you are a people pleaser, conflict avoider, or simply use avoidance to deal with problems. But there are other reasons that people put off... Read more »

Beware the Divorce Rubberneckers!

      However it came about, when one of you wants it, you’re getting divorced. There is nothing that stirs up the ‘crazies’ (really a bad word for a mental health professional to use) more than divorce. Except for maybe murder. Just as soon as you think you’ve gotten those nasty rats – the... Read more »

Resentful Giving Backfires in Marriage

Divorce is one of those times in life that offers an opportunity to ‘stand in your truth’. When you show the world – at least your up close and personal world – what comes out of you when you are squeezed. Whatever comes out when you’re squeezed, you can be sure it was in there... Read more »