Category: guilt

One Man's Burden Is Another Man's Opportunity

Mark visited his mom every other day religiously. Living close to the memory care facility that she resided, it was easy for him to stop by after work, during a lunch break or for brunch on the weekends. Marks father had passed away 6 months ago, and since then Marks mom had not spoken much.... Read more »

Coming To Grips with The Deterioration Of A Relationship

Recently I have had to reconcile with myself that not all the relationships I have been involved with are good for my health. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you realize that you have outgrown a pattern of engagement that was once your only foundation. Acquaintances  come and go, family members die, new friends... Read more »

When Life Gives You Bananas, Make Banana Bread

When I met Caroline she was a very particular lady with impeccable taste for good clothing, accessories and jewelry.  She was always dressed to the nines and appeared to have everything in her apartment in perfect order. Her organization was something to be desired as she always had her papers piled neatly, her closet tidy... Read more »
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"Remembering" Vs. Knowing And Loving

I recently watched a movie about a woman suffering with Alzheimer’s disease. Each of her caregivers handled the changes differently, yet there was a common thread that tied them all together… their frustration in not being remembered. Each of the woman’s children would pepper her with questions like “What’s my name mom?”,  “Don’t you know... Read more »

An Allergy To Others

Let’s be honest. We are not always the best people for the job.  We may find ourselves stinking at the “parenting role” one day or really being a shitty friend.  There may even be times when we suck at our own professions, having a horrible day of screw-ups, mistakes and utter failures. This is true... Read more »

Finding The Humanity In How We Care

I read a post on Facebook the other night from a man who discussed how lonely he felt in his mind, body and soul since his diagnosis of dementia.  He talked of how people keep their distance and “are afraid to get their hands dirty” in hopes that they are making a difference in HIS... Read more »
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Engagement Means Connecting with Patients Beyond The Clinic

While watching The Freedom Writers with my teenagers the other night, we bonded over commonality.  Dialogue opened up about teachers that have inspired us, teachers that have annoyed us, systems that have failed and people that have prevailed.  It was a good cinema choice for a chilly winter evening. What became so clear in the... Read more »

Collaboration is the Key to a Mutually Beneficial, Long Term Relationship

  Kyle stopped at the local coffee shop on his way to work one snowy winter morning after running out of his flavored grounds. While taking an opportunity to treat himself he noticed a man wearing a familiar hat just ahead of him in line.  Tipping his head to see the side of the fedora,... Read more »

Ringing In the New Year With Bumpers For All

Time Log:  Year:  2017/ Day:  1/   Mantra Learned:  Bumpers For ALL! As a family we rang in 2017 in our new home, in a new city, in the new state that we now reside.  Spirits were high although exhausted from the move.  Kids appeared to be acclimating well and we were anxious to explore... Read more »
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Who Does The Winding Staircase Benefit?

My friend  just booked a respite stay for her mom.  She is a mother of two young boys and full time caregiver to her aging mom.  Recently my friend renovated her home to accommodate her mom who was downsizing out of her own apartment.  She redesigned their den into a 1st floor bedroom with an... Read more »