Decorative Pillows And Function Over Form

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I love decorative pillows.  I desperately want my home life to resemble those seen in magazines that look perfectly put together, inviting and clean.  For years I have used a total of 11 pillows on my bed to achieve ideal satisfaction.  I use two at night, my husband uses three.  The rest go on my floor until the following morning.

My dog finds the floor pillows enjoyable for a good night sleep, but beyond that, they serve no purpose.  I realize this, but when I walk in my

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room and see my bed made pilled high with decorative pillows, it makes me happy.

My husband despises these pillows.  He has even made comments that the pillows cross over the latitudinal line of the bed and are therefore, ridiculous.  The other night he had a realization as to why he has never participated in making the bed… the pillows.

He went on to describe that he could never achieve success as an active participant in the ritual because I would follow behind him and redo it to my standards.   MY “right way” to make the bed encompassed in decorative flowery print pillows did not allow for him to have success in the chore and therefore he declined to engage.

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So this morning he surprised me by making the bed… without the extra pillows.  The sheets were pulled up and folded, the comforter was smooth over the surface of the mattress and the pillows at the head of the bed were only the ones we use.  The others were tucked into his side of the closet.  When I came into the bedroom to find the chore completed, it made me happy.

Assuring that I was in a good mood first, he smiled and told me that he wants to be a part of the process of our new home looking good, yet the only way to do that is to make the standards achievable.  He went on to say that he desires to take ownership in our own personal space, therefore his standard on chore completion needs to be attainable to his abilities.

I admit, I will miss my pillows.  I made them myself and I pride my creativity as they match the headboard and color scheme, but I can let them go.  Day to day, my house does not have to immolate a magazine illustration of the worlds most beautiful bedroom.  It needs to be a room that encompasses comfort, warmth and companionship.

This will be created by the partnership of my husband and I working together to create this space.  My job is to let go of my high ideals and standards in order for him to participate in the chore more frequently.  Day to day, it will be function over form…. but on the off chance I get company to visit, you can bet I will be rummaging through his side of the closet to excavate the decorative pillows and pile them high… once more.

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