Once in a while, I vent to my girlfriends about being single. At 28, pretty much all your friends have left you behind for married life and parenthood. I’m sure they get tired of my complaining about it, but they get me back with the husband venting. It’s a nice balance!
Lately, I’ve been hearing the same thing over and over. I need to learn to play the game. I meet a guy who I like, I tell him I think he’s cool, I like him, whatever. According to many of my friends and coworkers, this is WRONG.
Then I do the unthinkable. It’s been two days and I haven’t heard from my new crush yet. I text him.
When he texts me back later and asks how I am doing, I respond rather quickly.
I don’t like playing games. I’d rather just be honest, upfront and show my cards. This is all just wrong apparently.
Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.
I went out with one of my best girlfriends a few weekends ago to celebrate her birthday. She invited a guy to meet us out at the bar who she had gone on a date or two with. It wasn’t anything serious at this point, just casual.
About two hours (and a few too many beers) into the night, I noticed she wasn’t talking to him. He watched her like a hawk, but she didn’t initiate any conversation. She wasn’t a bitch by any means. If he talked to her or asked her a question, she would respond. Overall, however, she paid little attention to the poor guy.
I leaned over to her at this point and asked her what was going on. I mean she invited this guy out to the bar, he met her friends and was clearly smitten with her, so why wasn’t she paying attention to him? Her response “Just watch, he’ll blow up my phone tomorrow.”
Because I’m curious about people and because I need dating advice, I called her the next day. Sure enough, the guy texted her early the next morning and throughout the day.
Part of it, I’m sure, has to do with the fact she’s adorable, charming and personable but part of it probably also had to do with how she played her cards. Do I agree with her methods? I guess they worked but to me, it’s just strange.
I guess I better get with the game though or I’m going to end up knitting baby blankets for other people’s children while my cats play with the yarn and jeopardy is on tv. Shit… I think I’m already there!
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