Ask ChicagoNow: What is love?

Ask ChicagoNow: What is love?

ChicagoNow is a group of bloggers from all sorts of different backgrounds.

With so much collective experience, we’ve decided to put that knowledge to use by posing some of the oldest and most popular questions to the group.

What is love?

“I cannot say it better than Ambrose Bierce: ‘Love: a temporary insanity curable by marriage.'” — Michelle Babicz, Planet Michelle

“Don’t know what love is, but I’ve been feeling it for my wife for 49 years. Keeps getting stronger. Please don’t tell me that I’m the exception.” — Dennis Byrne, The Barbershop: Dennis Byrne, Proprietor

“I think Oregon Scott Card said it best, ‘To reach out to you when I’m in need, and to try to be here for you when you need me back. And to feel such tenderness when I look at you that I want to stand between you and all the world: and yet also to lift you up and carry you above the strong currents of life; and at the same time, I would be glad to stand always like this, at a distance, watching you, the beauty of you.'” — Kim Cavill, Sex Positive Parent

“As expressed between humans, Love is a choice as much as it is anything else.” — Linda Clark-Borre, Chicago From The Inside Out

“My favorite love quote, is ‘Love is a friendship set on fire’. I saw it on something in a Hobby Lobby. However, for me right now, love is looking at someone at 6am, when they wake you up and being able to smile and want to snuggle with them. I of course, am referring to my puppy.” — Stephanie Esposito, Chicago Rucks

“Love is a catastrophe. Look what it’s done to me. Brought me down here so low.” — Kelley Farrell, The Canny Nanny

“According to the great philosopher, Johnny Cash, ‘love is a burning thing.’ That could also be heartburn or a funky STD, so I’d get it checked out by a doctor. 1980s songstress Pat Benatar says ‘love is a battlefield.’ That sounds a bit unhealthy to me. Who wants to fight all the time?” — Jessica Gardner, Little Merry Sunshine

“It’s knowing you have the ability to use that ax or pillow for no good, but choose not to (being too pretty for prison has saved me many times!) Many thanks to the Big Guy for his self restraint. I love you too!” — Carole Lago, Inside the Wrapper

“What is love? Love? Baby, don’t hurt me.” — Bill Mayeroff, Pints and Pups

“Love is the desire and the willingness to let your partner shine in the limelight.” — Michael Messinger, Mysteries of Life

“Love is when someone does it unconditionally and genuinely, expecting nothing in return. So far, I’ve only experienced this with my sons.” — Sabrina Nixon, Purple Reigns: How to Live a Full Life with Lupus

“As far as I can tell so far, love is a social construct that binds people, something that has eluded my understanding so far.” — Nicolle Nuelist, Picks & Ponderings

“I’m not sure true love exists.” — Alan Rubenstein, Chicago Sportist

“Love is hope. Love is your best friend + lust. Love is finding your other half who loves you no matter what. Love is not an ideal, an unreachable goal, rather a partnership of sharing and trust.” — Bob Schneider, Politics Now

“Love is deeply caring for someone or something. The tricky part is to keep loving even when the other person or even the thing is not being lovable or bringing joy. I try to always remember that love is a verb, an action that I must continually work on.” — Susan Schulhof, Looking for the Good

“From Pablo Neruda, Sonnet XVII, ‘I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where, I love you directly without problems or pride: I love you like this because I don’t know any other way to love, except in this form in which I am not nor are you, so close that your hand upon my chest is mine, so close that your eyes close with my dreams.'” — Nina Kushner Vallone, You Know Neen

“Love is really seeing each other, being there when necessary. Love is listening and talking. Love is letting go and getting hurt. Love is having fun together, but also on your own. Love is wanting to be around each other. Love is accepting the other for who they are, not for what you want them to be. Love is trust. Love is everywhere around you, you just have to see it (especially when you look in the mirror!). You can find love in memories, not in things. Love continues even after death. Without love the world would be empty.” — Annemarie Verweij, Dutch Alien Lands in the U.S.

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