by Edward Shanahan.
Could Psychic Empathy be the wrong choice of words?
What I am about to present in my article below is from the book ‘Psychic Counselor’s Handbook’ by Rev. Ralph D. Jordan, DD. from Chicago. Educated in traditional religion and metaphysical philosophies. Rev. Jordan holds ministerial and doctoral degrees from many associations.
He spent at the age of 17, discussion time with the son of Edgar Cayce. He has worked in conjunction with Olaf Johnson who was the mind connector to the first astronaut to go into space and was a counselor for US government personnel. He has been the past president of what has been the second largest spiritualistic camp in the USA.
I highly recommend anyone in the psychic field who has not read or does not own the ‘Psychic Counselor’s Handbook,’ to get your hands on a copy of it. It was published in 1999.
As a Psychic Reader, I have never used the title or description of being an Empath, and why I have not is written below with just a few words from the many pages in the ‘Psychic Counselor’s Handbook’ on the subject.
I did this article to assist those who may be using the word Empath in their title, as once they know what it means, they may decide that it is the wrong choice of a word to use. Also, this article may assist those seeking a Psychic.
Empathy, Sympathy, and Pity.
Empathy is a form of comparison. We are reaching back into our memory bank for similar experiences. Thus, once we’ve coagulated the similarity of experience, we rely on our particular disciplines which have either helped us overcome, understand, or ignore the client’s situation.
That is a breach of ethics. The client is not there to be counseled by our past endeavors or to be equated with our past life. He is there for us to bring forth information and direction that will assist him, if he chooses to apply it, or help him overcome, understand, or work through the problem.
An empathic reaction, while we are working with a client, is another form of identification with the client. We bring ourselves out of that neutral place that we have achieved and start giving our client information from our personal experiences, how we handled those particular experiences.
But those experiences were uniquely designed for our karmic evolution and not necessarily designed for the evolution of our client.
Empathy is to empathize with them, to relate ourselves to them, to identify ourselves with them.
It sounds like this: “I know what you’ve been going through. I’ve been assaulted, too and I remember the pain and the misery of it. I just can feel so strongly for you. This is what I did.” Perhaps that is not what the client needs to do. It’s what the counselor did and each experience, no matter how similar it is in its activation, is uniquely different in its karmic association.
According to her, empathy is to be able to put myself into the situation without being emotionally attached to it.
Following what she just described as her best technique for counseling, I want to know how she is going to counsel someone who has done a murder.
How could I be at all effective if I counseled the families of those just killed in a plane crash and whose body parts landed a mile away from where the plane came down? How can I group that into a singular experience because I, too, once lost a loved one in an accident? It’s impossible for me to empathize with their experience. I can’t go from my empathetic experience and feed to my clients what they need to hear.
If we go back into our own personal experiences, we left our neutrality. As soon as we put our brain into action and remember our experiences and emotions involved with it, we already personalized it.
Sympathy is feeling sorry, feeling as though that person is being punished, letting our heart melt with his or her heart. It’s saying, “How could anyone do that to you? I know exactly what you are going through.”
Pity is the worst of all. It says, “You poor thing. Can’t the rest of the world see that you don’t have the tools or the abilities to do anything else except to be exactly what you are? Oh, you poor thing. You don’t have any money, let me give you mine. You can’t earn any; you don’t have the ability to do so, you need a caregiver, you need someone to do it for you. Oh, you poor thing.” Or, “You are sick, and I am well, but I am going to sacrifice myself for you.”
Pity is that area where we actually feel that people are inferior and don’t have the capabilities to work themselves out of their self-created situations.
Sympathy, empathy, and pity are the three most destructive reactions and actions that a counselor enters into.
I will not go into what Rev. Jordan following paragraph in the book states, as that is part of the learning that the book provides, I am attempting to show why Psychic Empathy may be the wrong words to use in your title or what not to seek in a Psychic for those seeking them.
Psychic Counselor’s Handbook is a fantastic book for anyone in the field to have at their reach. You can find it here on Amazon.
May there be the peace that settles forever in your heart.
Chicago Psychic Medium, Paranormal Explorer.
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