Now, before you get your panties in a wad or start sharing this post because you want to mommy bash all the stay at home moms, just stop.
This isn’t that kind of post. This is about me. Just me.
For the record, every stay at home mom or dad, is a freaking superhero in my book. Kudos to you! You all rock!
This is about what was best for my family. And to be very honest, if I had to do it all over again, I still wouldn’t be a stay at home mom.
My job has always defined me. I have been working since I was 15 years old. Even before then, I worked. Whether it was babysitting or mowing lawns, I had a job.
When my son was born, although my heart entertained the thought of staying home with him, my brain told me otherwise. For starters, we are a two income family. Although we saved for my maternity leave since my job offers no paid leave, we started hurting towards the end. I had to return at 7 weeks postpartum. Secondly, it was critical to my mental well being to return.
Don’t get me wrong, I cried everyday for a week when I went back to work and he went to my Mother-in-law’s house. I cried many times thereafter thinking and believing I was missing out.
I cried when he started at a local home daycare. I didn’t want him raised by another woman. I cried when I realized he wasn’t learning on schedule. Talking. Doing things he should be doing. It just wasn’t the right fit for him.
I cried when I moved him to an Advanced Learning Center. I was scared he would never adjust. There were so many tears back then. But that eventually ended and the guilt was lifted.
Today I cried because my two year old stopped his teachers in their tracks when he loudly counted to 27 all by himself.
I cry happy tears because they have taught him so many amazing things I know I could never have done staying home with him. I can admit that.
Because of them he is speaking in incredible full sentences. He knows the difference between an octagon and a hexagon and isn’t afraid to correct you. He knows who our first president was. He sings songs and has an incredible imagination.
They say it takes a village.
They are my village.
And I am eternally grateful.
Where I once worried that others would be raising my son, I am thankful for these people that spend five days a week with him. I am grateful for their care and their skills. They are molding him into an incredible child. A brilliant child. An incredibly social child.
I think it’s important for working moms to know that it’s okay to go back to work after having a child. Your child will be ok. Probably better than ok. Great.
Whether you hire a nanny, your child attends a daycare, or a learning center, as difficult as it is, try not to feel guilty. They are your people. Your village. They are there for not only your child but for you. Your family. And they are amazing people.
If I had to do it all over again, I still wouldn’t be a stay at home mom.
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